Say what you mean, mean what you say  

Alenadhal 63M/59F
9 posts
6/14/2006 6:26 am

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Say what you mean, mean what you say

We have only recently decided to give a single guy a chance, we've only been with couples so far. We established an e-mail and chat correspondence with a local fellow. His profile indicated he wanted to meet women and/or couples.

There was no pressure from us or him to meet, but as things moved along over a period of almost a month, we started talking about getting together for a drink. Just a meeting, see where things might go.

Mid-week, it was agreed that the three of us meet late Friday afternoon at a local cocktail lounge. Friday, around 1pm, he called to say he had forgotten he had a family event that evening, would Saturday be ok? I said sure. We agreed to meet same time and place, just a day later. We'd be in touch early Saturday to confirm.

We didn't hear from him until almost 7 pm Saturday. He said he'd fallen alseep, sorry it didn't work out to meet this week end. I thought, the week end isn't over yet, but I didn't want to pressure him.

Sunday morning we got a note from him that he didn't think he was ready to be with a couple, having another guy in the room was too much for him.

I just checked and he still has "women and/or couples" as his target. So if he's not ready for couples, why doesn't he change his profile? Or, if he decided he didn't want to meet US, just say so.

I guess I don't really expect an answer to those questions. Just venting. And I know this is not a unique story, it probably happens to a lot of folks. At least he had the balls to let us know, and didn't leave us just waiting at the lounge.

rm_Luvtwosee 63M/58F
9 posts
6/14/2006 8:46 pm

Indeed ... not completely uncommon as we've read many posts about similar experiences and have had similar expereinces ourselves. Nevertheless it is frustrating ... but we like your conclusion ... at least he didn't leave you waiting at the lounge.

rm_yaktom 90M
4 posts
6/15/2006 12:36 pm

Hey, I can relate to the nervousness of the guy, but to back out without even meet you, that is not too cool.
I have been in the situation of having the guy watch and join in. I must say for myself the joining in guy is easier to take. When a partner sits and watches, it's like your being graded on performance, and more than a bit distracting.
When the partner joined in, I got the sense he was genuinely interested in giving his partner a pleasurable time. Of course the time, he was into it, and she wasn't was too wierd to describe, and will wait for another time.
So put me down as one who has and knows.

Alenadhal 63M/59F

6/19/2006 6:20 am

Hi, Yaktom, Thanks for your comment. I hadn't thought of it that way. I guess I always figured the two guys would team-up on the effort, although I know my hubby would like to watch. What was your most sucessful experience? How did it play out?

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