Wrapped around my finger  

AdventureBeckons 43M
117 posts
3/22/2006 6:13 pm

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Wrapped around my finger

So, one of the side effects of being a decent writer and having seen practically every romantic movie ever made is that I am one charming bastard. Don't take that as me being immodest. I know it to be true, and to be completely manipulative, and yet I can't help using it to my advantage. On more than one occasion I have charmed a woman out of her pants only to hear her later wonder aloud how the hell she got herself in that situation. Likewise I have also used this to gain the genuine love and affection of a prospect. Usually to get in her pants, too, but occasionally just because it was what I wanted or needed at the time. And now and then it makes me feel guilty.

BlindDate #2, as she will remain being named, is completely wrapped around my finger. She is eating up every word that I say, write, or type, and is in a complete, genuine titter. I am almost willing to bet she will confess her love for me inside a week. You are probably thinking that is just the process of wooing a woman, but dude, that's fucked up.

I actually do like her - she has most of the qualities I am looking for in a partner - and I do want to get to know her, but maybe I need to tone it down a notch. Poor girl doesn't know what hit her. And I don't know if I am doing this because I want this particular relationship to work out or because I am lonely and latching on to the first viable candidate. Or worse yet, doing it just because I can. I don't like to think of myself as being that kind of weasel.

What makes me uncomfortable is that I am not sure I am ready to handle the serious relationship that will inevitably fall out of this hard-press courtship. I joined this site with the thought of having a less serious relationship (or 3) but I am potentially returning to my old habits. I met this one elsewhere, so I can't yet judge where she fits on the scale of sexual liberation. If that were not a factor for me I probably would not be here.

And there are other women in play, too. Do I learn the lesson from my past and not close any of those doors this time, or do I just try to focus on reeling in this fish and see if I am happy with it?

_Safira 53F
11260 posts
3/22/2006 6:27 pm

*sitting in silence, holding your hand, passing the Pringles* / *gentle hugs*

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MartsPudicInked 47F

3/22/2006 6:31 pm

Charming,well spoken,handsome...Deadly Combo!

Just follow your heart!


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AdventureBeckons 43M
145 posts
3/22/2006 8:45 pm

Thank you for stopping by, Ming. I have been enjoying your blog lately, too. I find your pictures inspirational, in a number of ways.

Safira, I know you are trying to appear supportive but deep down you are taking pleasure in watching me squirm. You don't even know how close you were to being charmed out of your corset! I had to make a conscious effort not to turn it on.

fiery_one06 35F

3/23/2006 1:50 pm

No wonder I dont trust men! You better be careful or else you'll find yourself on the wrong end of one pissed off chick.
Either way have fun this weekend.

rm_dchoney74 42F

3/24/2006 10:09 am

well well...I would love to hear the details about how this went.

I love charm, but I don't trust it, not in the long run. You better bring with all that charm a healthy dose of sincerity...and if you are that good, it may border on sociopathic.

Whether or not you decide to persue this as a "relationship", I hope you talk to this sucker of a woman (j/k) to get a sense of where she is coming from (casual sex or a stroll down the aisle?)...at least then you can be on the same page...

AdventureBeckons 43M
145 posts
3/26/2006 3:38 pm

Well I am back in NJ now after my weekend in NYC. I'll post a proper blog entry later but I'll summarize for you:

I was a gentleman, and we had fun just walking around the city. I am not the type to take advantage, and she was not the type to be taken advantage of. I suspect I will spend more time with her but I am still not sure where either of us stands. I was sick all weekend so that dampened the experience a little.

impish_pixie 54F
6867 posts
3/27/2006 6:19 pm

Charm will only last for so long...seems you may already know this. But hey...you do get points for the honesty. (Though I'm willing to take bets on the whole Safira out of her corset thing...and I'm betting on her. Would be interesting to watch the "game" though.lol)

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn

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