Why me?  

A_Woman_Scorned 49F
45 posts
9/23/2005 10:34 pm

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Why me?

Again I wonder - why me? I'm a good person who lives a good life, yet I feel like I'm paying for something I did wrong. Writing all that tonight was cathartic.....but I still have to deal with my sadness and wonder if I'll ever be happy again.

HereComeSunshine 49F

9/23/2005 10:48 pm

Scorned, You've been through a lot, hun! My belief is that there is something so much greater for you and someday it will happen. You just have to muddle through all the sh*t first. I am very sorry for your loss ((hug))

pASSionwantd2 50M
1316 posts
9/23/2005 10:56 pm

You will be,by starting to get rid of the thought process you have. Make a new Handle name,that's Hot and Sexy.the more you rid yourself of unhappiness the better you will be.Change a few thing's day by day and you will see a tremendous Change!!!!!!Good luck and Be Happy!

cooper10005 65M
1 post
9/23/2005 11:40 pm

Why me?
I empathize and commiserate with you. You've apparently had more downs than ups. I too, seem to have gone the same route and right now, am probably on the lowest, longest down of all. Sometimes it seems as it'll never end. And I won't tell you to smile because things could be worse (so she smiled and, sure enough . . . things got worse).

But here's the thing - I'm an accountant, have been for now 30 years (YES - THIRTY YEARS), and I've learned many things as such. The most important is "the balancing equation". Simply put, it means that all things NEGATIVE MUST have a BALANCing POSITIVE.

In the end, the negatives and positives will balance each other out.

So, what's that mean for you? Well, you wonderful woman, you must be in for one HELL of a FABULOUS REST OF YOUR LIFE.

Xs and Os to you.

And, as we used to say back in the day . . . Keep The Faith, Baby . . .

saddletrampsk 54F

9/24/2005 12:28 am

Big hug sweety..the darkest hour is just before the dawn..welcome to blogland, I'm new here too..

bcvegas4u2 69M
45 posts
9/24/2005 12:48 am

When you go thru as much rejection & hurt as you have, you begin to understand yourself more. A lesser person would have crumbled by now. As you go on, you will find that you will feel love, tenderness, passion & other feelings with much more intensity than other people & will hold onto each bit of happiness & joy longer than others, because you understand how fleeting those moments are.

Don't ever let anyone or anything keep you from enjoying all that living can give you. Don't worry, be happy! The other choices suck.

You must live in the moment. The only thing you can control is how you feel about this moment. Yesterday is gone & can't be recaptured. Tomorrow isn't here yet so you can't live there. There is only now & you are just as happy as you make up your mind to be. I've known rich people that were the saddest & loneliest people you could find & I've known people that had nothing except the pile of junk they sat on, that were happier than anyone I've ever known. Whether you are happy, content, sad or afraid is up to you, no matter what anyone does or says to or about you.

rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
9/24/2005 7:33 pm

You will find that writing about the loss will be cathartic. Don't worry about what other's comment just do this for yourself.


madkitten 53F
291 posts
9/25/2005 4:56 am

I can be very like you, there are some days when I feel as though everything I have touched in my life has gone bad, and that only bad things have ever happened to me. Like you Im trying to work though this thought process, you have listed all the bad things that have happened to you, now you need to list all the good things, the positive things in your life, your achivements and the things that make you feel good. Anything can be an achivement, even if the only thing you can think of is a recent book you read. You need to start to think about your SELF WORTH.

2muchwoman4some 41F

9/25/2005 7:14 pm

I'd like to recommend a book I've been reading lately that's been very powerful and helpful for me...Nathaniel Branden is the author and the title is "Six Pillars of Self Esteem"

I hope it will help you find some of the strength it has shown me.

Just try to remember that the tragedies you've had to face have not been yours to control, but that the way you behave, think about, and portray yourself to the world GOING FORWARD is all in your hands.


pussnboots694 73M/78F

9/25/2005 7:15 pm

My dear sweet one..
Although god works in mysterious ways..
ways we may never understand..
When he takes away..
He always gives something new..
As each door closes..
A new one opens..
Sometimes we feel like we are swirling within a tornado..
just perhaps
the wind is warm..
and the swirling is taking us to a better place..
A place where we can be stronger..
To love and appreciate what we do have..
In the devastation of the recent hurricanes for example..
Within all the sadness..
There is joy..
Babies were born.. New bonds of love have been formed..
Even though these are small things..
They are priceless gifts..
I ask you to simply start with the little things ..
Things that we take for granted..
The sunshine as it warms your face..
Hearing the birds chirp..
Watching the colors of fall as they color the world..
Dewdrops on the petals of the flowers..
Being able to see..
To walk and talk..
Life is so full of beauty..
You dear one are beautiful as well..
I know you will fuel yourself on the strength that is building inside of you..
Love yourself dear one..
Smile and the world will smile with you..
You will find peace..
Floating within the arms of love..
Know your angels walk with you..

If you ever need to just chat..
Please do not hesitate..
Being here has given me a new strength..
I was considering giving up blogging..
Sharing with you
has made me realise.. that this is where I need to be..
I thank you so.. for helping me .. be where I need to be..
So as I extend a hand to you and say thank you..
Feel the warmth of my arms as I slip then around you..
Feel the beating of my heart against yours as I hug you deeply..
You are not alone here..
There are many caring people in blogloand..
You will soon know that we all shall welcome you with open arms of love..
Be well dear one..
I love you already..

Synn74 42F
1206 posts
9/26/2005 8:23 am

ohh Puss that gave me chills ( such a beautiful writer)
Scorned..((( hugs)))) welcome to blogland
many beautiful souls lie within these pages
may you embace us as we will you

I welcome you to the House of Syn...

(Princess Lips)

9/26/2005 11:39 am

change your stars hon..


GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
9/27/2005 12:01 am

A_Woman_Scorned, welcome to the halls of blogland. Know you are not alone and you will hopefully be able to find some friends here on different levels.

One step at a time....

have fun ...

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
9/27/2005 12:01 am

A_Woman_Scorned, welcome to the halls of blogland. Know you are not alone and you will hopefully be able to find some friends here on different levels.

One step at a time....
If you need a shoulder, or an ear, or just something, just knock....

have fun ...

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/27/2005 2:26 am

You will be happy again... You have not made it this far through all of the things you had to endure for nothing... You have a purpose here.
Be well...Sizzle's spot is always open if you need to talk...


keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
9/27/2005 6:27 am

Echoing the Goddess and welcoming you to BlogLand. See, you already have made a few friends!

AlbertPrince 57M

9/27/2005 6:50 am

I'm not much good at this sympathy stuff, but if you want to giggle come and talk to me!

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
9/27/2005 7:56 am

Nothing I can say will take away the hurt you feel today. Nothing I can say about what might lie in your future is likely to fill you with the joy of anticipation. Nothing I can do from here will help you grieve and ease the pain of transition or the awful echoes of the past.

So all I'll do is to second what has already been said: you're not alone ...

__Huntress__ 55M/57F

9/27/2005 9:41 am

I cannot say it any better than my fellow bloggers already have ... I wish you peace, always ... and welcome you to our community ... {=} !

looken4sumfun2 54M

9/27/2005 10:52 am

comes from within,
can be transferred to others
without even realizing it
as you've done here...
carry your joy forward,
leaving sorrow in the past,
each new day
a gift
for love
to grow...
take comfort
in those that now walk with you,
tell us
your happiest moments
and as in sorrow,
we will now share in the beauty of your life...

A_Woman_Scorned 49F

9/27/2005 7:33 pm

Thank you everyone for all of your kind words. Although you are all strangers, I feel comforted - sometimes a stranger can understand better than family friends. To be honest, I didn't think anyone actually read these things - but I'm happy you all did and that you responded. I will be in touch with those of you who sent emails as well - Thank you - G

ShiesFlukyJulep 58M
23 posts
9/28/2005 3:53 am

As has bee siad here before, you will find that your feelings will much more intense than other people & you will hold onto each bit of happiness & joy longer, because you understand how fleeting those moments are. My story parallels yours, just from a man's perspective, and this is what has happened to me.

Scorned, the one thing outside my self that has helped me is to allow myself to share with others and accept their offers of help. It was very difficult for this self-sufficient man to open up, and it took a lot of trust to get there. Since then, it has become easier to share, which helps to heal quicker and be ready to move to the next moment.

Sometime I think my theme song should be "I'm always on a mountain when I fall" by Merle Haggard.

Hang in there, sweetie. We are all here for you if you just yell )

sexymermaid6956 63F
26393 posts
9/28/2005 8:03 pm

i am numb
i feel your pain and sadness
i also hear your inner strength..It holds you together
lean on us..i take your hand and draw you in and hug you..my strength adding to yours..take time to draw on nature and do not be afraid to face the silence as it is good..it will not echo your grief if you hear the birds and in looking up allow yourself to live in peace ..i hope for you hun to embrace each day as there is beauty there..draw it close to you and grow each day with it.. warm hugs to you my dear..look ..smile.. taste.. and feel life.


Seduce my mind and my body

GleesFlakyShawl 50M
1620 posts
9/29/2005 10:56 am

just found u at GOTD welcome to BlogLand!!!!

dano6332 56M

9/29/2005 11:12 am

Your not scorned at all. If you were we would not be here offering you words of encouragement and sure, even love. I think you will find that people here are supportive of their friends in need as we all need a shoulder in life. I am aware of how trite this sounds but you really can develope friendships and even real feelings with the people you meet here. Were like a big family, sometimes we bicker and fight and sometimes we hug and cry together.
Everyone has loss in their life and you have just had more than your share for now. I personally believe that God never gives us more than he knows we can deal with and he must have a really big opinion of you. I know it feels like the holes in your heart will never heal and maybe they dont but they do scab over so you can, when your ready, pick up the pieces and go on. It is possible to meet men here as well but make sure you get to know them first since like the regular world we have our good and bad. If you want a non judgemental person to chat with I am here and feel free to drop me a note anytime you want. I never lie to my friends.

A big soft protective hug.


rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
9/29/2005 2:08 pm

best wishes G

the only answer i have found in life is to keep living and to care about people along the way

take care


S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo

TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
9/29/2005 8:52 pm

I feel your pain and sadness. Life is a journey and we never know what each day will bring. Know that people share your sorrow and believe that good things will come, that time will heal your wounds. As Alison Krauss sings "There is a Reason for it All". All of this will make you a stronger woman. Good luck to you.

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