Deep conversations  

ANewLevel4Us 38M/37F
226 posts
7/19/2005 9:37 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Deep conversations

No glorious sex stories to share from last night. We don't feel let down by the absence of it, which is good. This past weekend was a flurry of sexual adventures (and thankfully no misadventures!) and I think my poor kitty was thankful for the break.

We did, however, have a pretty deep conversation. My husband has not been too interested in the blogging aspect of what we are doing. He is far more interested in taking photos, having kinky sex, and seeing what other people have to say about what we post for viewing.

I, on the other hand, have this desire to express myself in ways that do not revolve around just photos. Don't get me wrong, I think the photos are damn sexy. Sometimes when I go and look at them again I think... holy smokes is that my what-nots?? Well, yes. Yes it is! And I think my clitoris is beuuuutiful.

But, there is something that I get on a deeper, emotional level when I express my thoughts about what we are doing. I like reading through other blogs -- I am intrigued by what other people are doing. Not so much so we can do it ourselves... but just to somehow feel as if we are not alone in this. The fact that we have a "dirty little secret" is exciting, but to know that there are other people out there who do similar things help me to feel more at ease with being myself, and sharing these things with my husband.

This whole adventure started out as simple conversation in a gameroom chat. Some guy was having conversations with people about how he takes videos of him and his wife screwing, and then sends them out and has people rate them. I thought that this was a VERY interesting idea. I had thought about it before, but never really brought it up in any relationship because I never felt confident enough in myself, and the other person, to know that I wouldn't get laughed at or shot down. My husband and I recently went through a very rough patch, and I decided what the heck - why not take the plunge and ask him what he thought? What do I have to lose? Better yet... what do I have to gain? Apparently, I have a boat load to gain. And I'm so thankful that I said something!

So, back to the original thought - he was interested in posting our photos and seeing the response they brought. I located the blogging section and was interested in the written word as an added feature to all of this. He has sat here with me and read through things, but definitly not as much as I have. I have explored a little, read various blogs, commented even. But, I didn't communicate effectively about all of the things I had done. By no stretch of the imagination had I done anything secretive. I wasn't on here looking for on-the-side things, or responding in ways that would push the boundaries of our trust. But, my husband didn't know that at first. He was surprised to see comments from others and to know that I had commented on things as well. He was taken by surprise -- and in a way he felt left out of parts of the experience.

We talked about a lot of stuff, and we both made perfectly clear that we are totally into this. All for it. Neither of us want this to be the "flavor of the month". We have reached a higher level with each other when we ventured into this. It's more than just the sex... its the trust that is involved. We are trusting each other enough, despite the BS, to explore very personal aspects of ourselves and then share them. It has strengthened a lot of areas of our relationship (not to mention exhausting our genitalias) and I don't want that to go away.

I'm glad that it wasn't just another night of sex. We needed to talk about what our boundaries are and what we are comfortable with. Without that knowledge, it is very likely that one or both of us could manage to cross the line and do something without even knowing it. Then the whole experience would be tainted, and most likely come to a screeching hault. That would be extremely dissapointing.

So, no sex stories. But after that discussion... I'm positive things will be just as hot - if not better!

edgeism50 32M

7/19/2005 10:37 pm

very nice guys! glad to hear you're so solid in your trust!

AltumHunksUnite 53M

7/21/2005 7:56 am

Yup, establishing the boundaries is the key.

SOunds like you're doing all of this right. Good luck.

Let me drive. I like the view

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/21/2005 12:26 pm

Yes same thing happened for us, got closer as we explodred more.

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