How much sex makes you a slut?  

AMBER_NEKTAR 36F
1043 posts
1/6/2006 3:24 am

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How much sex makes you a slut?

Up to the age of 24, i could probably count the number of people i have had sex with on one hand... (well okay maybe two!)

Since joining AdultFriendFinder and other adult sites, i have had so many offers and encounters that go well over the 70 mark...

Now me and my girlfriends were having an argument about this the other day... what makes a slut a slut?

Is it how many men she sleeps with?
Or who she sleeps with?
Or what she does when she sleeps with them?
Or how she dresses?

Now in my opinion, i would define a slut as someone who has no self respect or personal hygeine for herself or her body.

Although i may have slept with more men than my friend, the difference is, i don't fuck just anyone. And would like to think my standards are rather above average.

Im also very clean about what i do.. (i don't wanna catch any diseases!) and always get regular check ups. Not that i need to, but you can never be too safe!

I never put myself in a situation i don't wanna be in. And i never do anything i dont wanna do "just because" he asks me to.

So am i a slut then??

If by slut you mean a woman who likes to have sex without the hassles of emotional bullshit, and on a regular basis, then i guess yes i am a slut!

i dont want to have sex with lots of strangers, id rather it be with someone i trust and care for, have a connection with, but unfortunately it seems that people dont want that anymore...

i guess in order to find a 'fuck buddy' that i find suitable for me, i have to keep sifting through these strangers that i have sex with...


citydeep 48M
1 post
1/6/2006 7:31 am

What ever makes you feel good is what's important.Forget what another person thinks.Peace!


semperfi2u 46M
129 posts
1/6/2006 8:25 am

I'm mildly humored by this answerless, meaningless question. It's right up there with “what is the best cock size?” Why does it require a deeper definition then “A woman considered sexually promiscuous” or are we just trying to rectify some social hang-ups? It's not used on any applications forms that I'm aware of...yet. The only legitimate gripe I have with the term is it is dated and gender biased, BUT it still drives some women HOT to be called a slut.

Like citydeep says, "Forget" it.


rm_MustangD6644 52M
1031 posts
1/6/2006 2:21 pm

Hello AMBER_NEKTAR; Welcome to BlogLand and its good to see another Victorian blog starting up, particularly by a lady blogger. A philosophical question as your first topic is an interesting way to begin, but don't limit yourself to those sort of questions all the time. Explore all sorts of topics, have a rant or two, it is your blog after all.
As to my reply to your question? Well I guess its not so much about how much sex, for me its more how you treat other people and how they treat you, that determines the answer. A warm genuine caring person is far less likely to be viewed as a slut, than a cold calculating mercenary who treats people as disposable items when they have served their purpose.

Looking forward to your your future posts in your new blog.

Mustang
Your welcome to visit and comment in my blog.


rm_snoghombre 60M

1/6/2006 4:35 pm

Hi Amber

Hi, how are you, Amber?

My response to your blog, reference, your conversation with your friends .. (although, I concede it's a 'grey' issue pending one's socialised perspective/s)..

I believe a slut is a person, be they male or female, who uses their sensuality/sexuality to acquire and secure material means/security via the usually expected,'respectable' socialised means of deception and, possibly, self-deception .. (being the 'elusive' illusion of pure romantic love and assosiated monogomous expectations .. given, it can agreeably happen!) .. thus, their are a lot of 'respectable' sluts around.

People who .. trust themselves to enjoy without recrimination or major expectation, and to simply enjoy the buzz of being naked, laughing and being a bit wild do not fit this descriptor .. (and, dare I say, neither do those who sell sex as they tend do so openly, that is, those that choose to utilise such services know the $$'s score). Thus, the simple answer is, you're no slut, Amber.

Suffice to say, I'd like very much to meet a fuck buddy/friend with a similar attitude .. a forthright and honest meeting of the minds .. how bloody refreshing would that be, as the 'socialised' games we are expected to play usually screw us! yhus, you girls enjoy, and if your lovers don't appreciate how special you are, promptly send them on their way. My regards, Don. (AMM handle is hangn-out).


AMBER_NEKTAR 36F

1/6/2006 10:40 pm

semperfi2u ... forget what?
im not haveing a bitch about it...
i don't care if someone calls me a slut.
was merely asking people what their definition of a slut is...
im curious to know what people think.. male and female.
please let me know people.


semperfi2u 46M
129 posts
1/7/2006 3:51 am

good girl... it's forgotten! lol


cmando005 40M

1/8/2006 2:35 pm

i think u r correct a slut is someone who has no respect for themselves or thier body and will let nething happen to their body
throwing urself at every man is not a turn on u gotta have some respect and i believe u sound like u have control of ur situations so u r correct

P.S i like the photo


AussieCuckold 53M/41F

1/10/2006 3:30 am

Im from the opposite end of the scale. Its all about perception of the name caller.

A slut, is simply a word that other people use when they dislike someone's sexual prowess. So therefore it varies in definition.

For example. Like you Amber, Ive had quite a few (over 100) romps with perfect strangers. So for me to call another woman a slut, she'd have to have done some MAJOR porking in her life.

But, someone who has only had one partner in her life, very moralistically ideal and who is threatened by other women who have a sex drive - then perhaps they would say a slut is a woman who has been with someone other than their partner.

Its all about the perception of the name caller.

Men - A slut is just someone that won't fuck you, isnt that right? *wink*

Generally, it is just a word used as an insult to imply that the girl is free with her sexual self.

It is a word that doesn't offend me. Like your sweet self Amber, I am fully aware and comfortable with my past and future. Other peoples opinions shouldnt matter.


tryanything007 37M
4 posts
1/12/2006 2:41 am

What ever makes you feel good who gives a fuck what other people say


BendigoGold 57M

1/13/2006 4:07 am

Have always thought that those whop use the term slut sre generally envious in some way, perhaps looks, attitude. Dont use the term myself, but I come from another time.


rm_RenLoRd 34M

1/14/2006 5:12 am

    Quoting AMBER_NEKTAR:
    semperfi2u ... forget what?
    im not haveing a bitch about it...
    i don't care if someone calls me a slut.
    was merely asking people what their definition of a slut is...
    im curious to know what people think.. male and female.
    please let me know people.
That's the attitude... Never stop to think about what others might think of you, be yourself. Love those big eyes


johnp_1960 57M

1/14/2006 5:38 am

I think Beck has this right. It is all about the perceptions of others. If you are comfortable with who you are and how you live then who cares. All that matters is that you retain your self respect and just enjoy the fun


AMBER_NEKTAR 36F

1/17/2006 1:28 am

Men - A slut is just someone that won't fuck you, isnt that right? *wink*
aaaah so true!!!!


rm_comegetit069 39M
2 posts
1/18/2006 5:36 am

JUST TO VERIFY THAT , A SLUT FUCKS EVERYONE - A BITCH IS SOMEONE WHO FUCKS EVERYONE BUT YOU.*WINK*
BUT IT DOES DEPENDS ON SOMEONES PERCEPTION, AS LONG AS YOUR CLEAN ,SAFE AND ENJOY WHAT YOUR DOIN KEEP DOIN IT. SOME PEOPLE ARE JELIOUS AND IT IS THE EASIEST THING IS TO CALL A CHICK WHO IS BEING HERSELF A SLUT. HAVE FUN AMBER.


yupric 39M

1/22/2006 10:45 pm

Amber your profile pic is fucking hot! Just wanted to say that I have been with so called sluts and god bless em because they are stuck in my fantasies forever : )


yupric 39M

1/22/2006 10:47 pm

Amber

Your profile pic is so hot in fact I am jacking off to it at this moment.
Wish that was my dick in the pic


AussieCuckold 53M/41F

1/24/2006 3:44 pm

Mat here.....Now i think the more you get the luckier you are.
Anyone calling people who enjoy themselves "slut" are obviously jealous !!
Lucky girl, you enjoy it cause we are only here once !!
In my experience people who are open sexually are more open minded in life and much more likely to appeal to me as friends and lovers.
All the best and be good !!!!!
Matty


BBWslut4u2fuk 47F
45 posts
2/15/2006 9:25 pm

Hiya Amber - well, take it from one who refers to herself as a slut .... it can mean anything you want it to mean.

Some one defined slut as: a woman who will sleep with anyone, a woman with loose morals.

My personal hygiene, my sexual health and discriminating nature ensure that I stay clean, happy, healthy and safe.

I prefer to use the term broadminded IE: I don't have a particular 'look' that I am attracted to, some people can really get me hot by the things they are into.

My favourite term is: PANSEXUAL: a person who participates in (or is open to) sexual activities of many kinds.

Another term is bi-sexual: I just call myself darn horny and extremely lucky - because I like guys and gals and am attracted to both.

Happily slutting about & luvvvvvvvvving every minute of it!!!!!!!!

B


dmasa01 54M
12 posts
2/17/2006 8:40 pm

I better get off this blog befor i send you a airplane ticket.

D!


figjamsquared 53M
10 posts
2/18/2006 7:57 pm

Don't sweat it - go with the flow (so to speak). I've been called a 'Male Slut' in my time - I wore that as a badge of honor.

I know what you mean though. Often, for guys (among other guys), it's "You lucky bastard". For women it was/is different. There are those who will put down a woman for enjoying herself.

I've been meaning to go through a do a count....Can't seem to find the time - we ought to get a competition going to see who has the most<G>.

Hmmm, time to crank up the database.

Rgds,
P@


rm_geewizzbabe 41M

2/22/2006 1:10 am

well amber i would not call you a slut at all and there is so many differents even the word slut ,now some guys that want sex from a lady and gets a knock back they call them a slut,now how are they a slut in this case,so its jealous,and some guys might love the word calling his own partner a slut as a turn on like come fuck me you little slut etc,and also some ladies have a higher sex drive than other ladies so this does not mean there a slut at all and the lists just keeps going on ,and then on the male side a male slut is called a stud ,so all in all i really think if anybody calls a lady a slut what are they ?? jealous?? a turn on for them?? and again the lists just keeps going ,and as a few of the replys have already said alot of different saying and meanings so really i am lost what more to say but if they are having fun isn't that whats lifes is all about i hope i have helped with the topic on the meanings of a slut if not spank me please cheers babe have fun geewizzbabe


rm_Nigsta69 46M
5 posts
3/25/2006 10:12 am

The word "slut" is a derogatory term coined by men in the days of old to keep a woman down, coz as men we know women can get as much sex as they like due to the dog nature of men. As men we know we can't get the amounts of sex like women could potentially get and being the so called "dominant sex" (in our minds) we use the term as a safety mechanism to stop our women running off and fucking every guy that is trying to get into her panties coz males are very insecure and controlling and don't like to miss out.

The term has worked very well as it has made women feel insecure about sleeping with numerous partners, and really what women likes to be labelled in such a derogatory manner? None that I know of.

I think if it's good enough for men to be players and try to pound as much pussy as possible and be positively labelled as a "stud", then it should be cool for a woman to do the same if that's what she desires without being labelled in that manner.

Women will also label other women as sluts if they feel threatened that another woman is scheming on her bloke or potential suitor, hoping it will get around and ruin a reputation and get her off the scent.

I say what you do with your horny wet throbbing pussy is your business as it's your life and other poeople's opinions are only opinions at the end of the day.

Have fun fucking


rm_neilegend 45M/46F
5 posts
3/29/2006 4:32 pm

hi Amber_nektar, i wouldnt say you were a slut, you may use the term yourself, i would say someone experiencing many sexual activities of THEIR own choosing can do so, if it was what they wish but i do not believe this makes one slutty. i believe the derogatory use of the term slut would be someone who has sexual encounters for the sake of having them without regard to their own safety and enjoyment, the receive nothing positive from the experience and would sometimes not hold them selves in high regard.
also another twist is the same as the "afro americans" who refer to themsleves as "nigga" it was a slur on them and they then took it as their own slang for themselves. so where a person likes sexual activities regularly and often may call themselves a slut is of their calling, doesnt make them any less or more sexy than they are (in your case from your pic and your intelligence in your posts i would say damn sexy)
as for me my mates all used to call me a male monogamus slut, and yes i happily accepted the tag


piercingsrfun4u 46M
277 posts
5/28/2006 9:28 am

hey amber to me a slut is someone who says they will be honest and true in a relationship then goes behind their partners back and screws everything with a pulse... you are most definatley not a slut just a very sexual woman that knows what she wants and then gets it...


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