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sphxdiver 74M
21063 posts
3/3/2015 12:09 pm

Getting a response is nice, but if you don't get one, that works too.

I too realize the women on this site get flooded with e-mails, and it would be a full time job keeping up with them.


hlahmale 43M
67 posts
3/3/2015 12:46 pm

I would think the response should be appropriate to his effort. If he just send a d pic, then don't respond. If he took the time to write something meaningful, he at least deserves an appropriate answer.

It helps to hear what a person did not like or why they regarded you with no interest. Often, there is just a misunderstanding, which often is resolved in they actually are interested. In any other case, it helps you be more appealing later from having learned from the experience.


Travel_Couple69 58M
1604 posts
3/3/2015 8:48 pm

while it would be nice to get a response even if its no thanks, we assume a no response is the same thing.

as a rule we try to reply to all emails, unless they are too stupid to reply to...the 'hey wanna hook up' one liners we usually simply delete.

we also try to keep it a simple no thank you...but also if the situation warrants, we will give a reason - usually its cuz the other's profile is devoid of any information that would pique our curiosity. it might be other things in the way they present themselves...our thought is that tho we are giving a pass, if the other knows why and they think it is something they should/can change, it might lead to future success for them.


Pulsator552001 63M
132 posts
3/3/2015 11:40 pm

It's polite to reply, even if not interested.


_JKH_ 69M
5448 posts
3/4/2015 6:51 am

No response is the response.

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nudecountryboy2 71M/70F

3/4/2015 7:14 am

no reponse is better than being lied to-----still a not interested would be better

that reminds me---i have some "not interesteds" to send


avidwvhunter 80M

3/4/2015 9:37 am

During the majority of my working career I have been a boss. I have always told my employees that I can't fix a problem if I do not know what the problem is. I send a lot of messages and I receive few responses and rarely do they tell me why they are not interested. Generally I try to contact older ladies and couples. I rarely write anyone in their 20s unless they indicate they are interested in older men. I am honest, respectful and my messages are way more than "Hi wanna fuck". My main photo is a face shot, not a cock shot. A lot of people look at my profile but to not message me. Some things I can not change such as my age. No one who meets me believes I am in my 70s, most think I am in the 50s. But if my approach was wrong or if I communicate too much or not enough how am I to know how to fix it if no one tells me.


kcclaire0923 68F  
822 posts
3/4/2015 10:52 am

No response is making a statement without saying a word.

Don't take it personally; just move on.


sika41 62M
643 posts
3/4/2015 3:52 pm

A simple "no" would be plenty .


MK4Fla 67M/55F  
13 posts
3/4/2015 6:21 pm

We try to respond to all emails we receive unless it's clear they did not read our profile and send stupid one liners. Or if you email us with nothing in the body of the message and just Hi in the subject line probably won't get a response from us either. We usually can judge a person's intelligence and communication skills based on how they correspond with us. If we write to someone, we at least put a little thought into it and in that case, it's nice to even get just a not interested response if you're not interested.


1ALLNYTR 59M
248 posts
3/4/2015 10:19 pm

I try to reply to all emails even the ones I am definitely not interested in, gay or bi guys. Its jus common courtesy


Sexybooknerd2 33F
14 posts
3/5/2015 12:38 am

Sometimes I get 100s of emails a day... lots of times they are rude, vulgar, explicit or just plain stupid... I often don't respond. It's not a personal thing, or with any intent to be disrespectful, but I value my time and simply don't have the time to be bothered with responding to half of the crap I get emailed anyway.

Plus, when I used to send "no thanks" emails, guys would get excited and think it was an opportunity to talk me into it or send further requests to communicate... it gets tiring telling people no and sometimes no response is the best response.


rm_richard77044 53M
1 post
3/5/2015 2:30 am

i like to be close to you


colovechild 71F
46 posts
3/5/2015 8:44 am

I agree with sexy , but I don't get a hundred a day. I get emails from men that are attached and married , under my age preference and other things that they did not read that were preferences from my profile and one word and one sentence emails are the common practice. Should I have to respond to all of those and the dic pics when it clearly states I will not in my profile ? And even the polite no for whatever reason does seem to start conversation as to why and etc.


hunter28544 43M
7 posts
3/5/2015 2:17 pm

I never send vulgar or rude emails , and yes a simple response interested or not would be nice. I do realize some women get hammered with tons of email and often wonder , if they ever got it. If they respond "not interested" I move on , no big deal.


luckie_girl 60F
3 posts
3/5/2015 2:34 pm

i agree with several of these responses...no response is a "no thanks" to me.

sometimes a "no thanks" isn't respected and makes the person keep trying, which is frustrating. as far as i'm concerned, when people are looking for hook-ups and NSA, how can you be offended if someone doesn't respond?


HappyChick43 52F
1042 posts
3/5/2015 4:14 pm

Personally, this site is filled to the brim with people wanting fantasy. I'm here for my own reasons, as is everyone else.
I too have responded to be courteous, only to have an argumentative person respond back with abuse. I now don't respond to any emails or messages that are obvious one liners sent to god knows how many.

I still respond to emails that I can see someone's taken the time to read my profile and has actually put some thought into it. These are few and far between.

So, I voted either way I don't really care. I don't email or message people I don't know anyway


golosa1115 62F
1066 posts
3/5/2015 5:04 pm

Since I am not young or slim I don't get bombarded with messages. I try to read and respond to the ones I do receive. I don't always respond to a pic with the same profile pic. Depending on the time on my hands I will respond to "wanna fuck" with sorry already have plans or Sorry still sore
. I always reply to someone that seems to have some real interest by showing their originality they at least deserve that.
The ones that cut and paste their profile usually don't receive an answer unless they add something that makes the message unique to me. I think they're looking for anything to fuck.
One word message such as hi, hello, sexy etc... usually means they want to chat on IM and I am not much into that. I think they are looking for a fuck for that very moment.
I answer message with a lol
Messages with contact me at an email, get no response.
Message with call me plus # no response


KandYforall 57M/109F
13 posts
3/5/2015 5:52 pm

We normally try to reply with a no thanks, but thanks for your interest.
The ones that reply with a "why not?" gets no reply again. To us, that is just rude to ask why, and opens themselves up for a lot of heart break. We dont want to tell anyone that they are ugly, too short, too tall, etc.


pleisure4u2 63M
1820 posts
3/5/2015 8:13 pm

I do not get emails so my opinion is mute. However since I have one here it is. Social etiquette when it existed would require a response to a question. In the modern world of information overload and more emails than you will require in three lifetimes I imagine that a non response equates to a no. Too simple?? not sure....enjoy Mike


13hammertyme69 59F
95 posts
3/5/2015 9:12 pm

While many think it is polite to reply. I have had to deal with being called all kinds of names when I do reply that I am not interested. Just last week had someone call me a 'racist bitch" when I let him know I was not interested, (my reply was that I am not interested in meeting new people right now). Or I get just try me you'll change your mind.


grumpygal 68F

3/5/2015 9:20 pm

myself... I need to know either way.so I can move on.


ajay1166666666 33M
20 posts
3/6/2015 10:06 am

theanswer depends on the questions privacy andother factors


idblueswoman 65F  
830 posts
3/6/2015 6:27 pm

It depends on the context of the email that will determine my response or lack of. Sometimes it's just not worth the energy.

Something else to be noted is that there are some that send the same email to as many people they can in hopes of getting a response. Nothing personal about it.


calm_green_eyes 47M
5 posts
3/7/2015 5:33 am

If i send an email and i dont get a response one way or the other its totally fine with me. But when i send a email get no response but daily i see my profile is viewed by the person(s) i sent it too, it does make me wonder and go why dont you simply say hello lol.


justskin1 72M
13175 posts
3/7/2015 6:44 am

No reply says not interested well enough and saves both sides time. If you do reply I don't need to know why you are not interested as the reasons don't matter.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.


SolanoClimaxer 67M  
80 posts
3/7/2015 11:03 am

Totally understand that women get bombarded. And I understand what Sexybooknerd2 is saying. However, as long as the ladies are going to be on here, the POLITE thing to do is send a "thanks not interested" reply. Yes, there ARE assholes on here who will harrass you no matter what, but I know I sure won't waste my time with a second email if the lady has already told me she isn't interested.

Now, with regard to writing "thoughtful" emails as mentioned by MK4Fla, Nothing is more aggravating than sending along a personalized email message where you took the time to address their profile to prove that you know what they are looking for and that you ever read it, only to get an "auto-response" as a reply: "Thanks for writing. I get a lot of email. If I am interested I will respond." Talk about taking the air out of your sails!

It is no wonder a lot of guys cut it down to one sentence. I think as long as you are polite, and can direct the lady to your profile which should be intelligently written, then it is reasonable to expect a hand-typed response, even if it IS "thanks but no thanks." In fact it doesn't even have to be manually typed. A selected "quick response" is better than an "auto-response. It at least means the girl has read my email. I can take the outcome either way.

Just my two cents.


XRecoverinNympho 47M  
57 posts
3/7/2015 12:02 pm

It is always nice (and polite) to respond with a brief, polite (and hopefully thoughtful) response that they aren't interested, especially if you have taken the time to read their profile and sent an email that had some time and thought put into it.


demonicsexkitten 48F
10694 posts
3/7/2015 6:09 pm

Considering my deal is "platonic only"... and my emails when I contact somebody are polite. Typically something like "I really liked your profile (because)" or "that was a great blog post!" or... something conversationally and polite.

I understand a "wanna fuck?" email being ignored. But a polite "Thank you" to a polite email isn't amiss.

But then again I reply to most all my emalis.


MsTLooksAgain 57F
2 posts
3/7/2015 11:10 pm

This one to me is a no brainer. I can tell if they have not read my profile by the wording of the e mail. I took the time to make my profile interesting and listed all my wants needs desires and dislikes and what it will take to get a response from me. I am looking for one fwb not one hundred. It took two years to find my last good one and I will wait patiently on the next one. I do not bed hop and will not settle after the fwb I just split from tonight. I need honesty and integrity and a faithful fwb. He was not 😱. I'm sad I wasted the last two years trusting someone not worthy of my trust. I want my first fwb back dang it!


startthefun13 58M  
146 posts
3/8/2015 8:12 am

yes it would be nice even if its a no. that also go's for people on the IM. just say no thanks.


trisha_ann_glynn 51T
1982 posts
3/8/2015 10:17 pm

I would like to know. If he or she does not respond, maybe they never got the e-mail.
And they might have been the one. Two people never meet because mail went to junk/spam.


oicu2tnk 63M/56F

3/9/2015 12:31 am

it would be nice to get a reply from those that a message of interest is mailed out to. but no reply is the same as saying they are not interested or they are just fakes looking to play games with themselves and every one they come in contact with on these sites


WndsrCpl 49M/44F
1 post
3/9/2015 12:37 am

We try to respond to all the requests and messages we get. However, we only respond to those that have actually read our profile. Sometimes it may take us a while (we like to sit down and discuss our wants first), but we will eventually get to everyone.


Moan_Master 48M
126 posts
3/10/2015 3:11 am

I dont care at all because this is not a place for seriouse stuff, only for play this and that.


NaugthyCpl2 56M/48M
11 posts
3/10/2015 4:00 am

if we don't hear from you in a few days we take it as not interested. That's it


pete2609   

3/10/2015 4:36 pm

I would guess women get a lot of emails so it may be hard to respond to them all. But if you get one thats more than "lets fuck" , which I could see how that would piss you off. But if you get 3-4 lines from a guy read it and give them or her a response one way or the other. Manner's go a long way's people on both sides should use them. This is my thinking anyway.


lookin4funinBC9 63M
1386 posts
3/15/2015 4:28 am

466 people just want to hear no thanks 99% of them i am betting are men


Depeer3 63M
146 posts
3/15/2015 8:52 am

I would rather have a reply stating not interested as it is only polite to do so, I have always replied to messages and mail.


Sandman4678 45M
28 posts
3/20/2015 10:16 pm

I would want some kind of a response. No response makes me think that this site is just a scam and all our emails go into the ether.


MrBajista 43M
1 post
3/21/2015 6:20 am

I've had lots of success with follow-up emails to women who didn't answer. They like the confidence...though I'm not overly aggressive when I do it.

A simple "not interested" is very much appreciated so that I know to move on and use my energy elsewhere. But seeing some of the responses women get when they say they're not interested, I really do understand why they just don't say anything at all.


Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
3/24/2015 5:07 pm

No response is fine.


ChromeNation 40M

3/26/2015 11:25 am

a simple acknowledgement would be nice.

otherwise its like i'm just talking to nobody.


TwistedViper20XX 42M

3/30/2015 5:03 am

I don't feel "entitled" to a response, but I do appreciate it. A simple "I'm not interested" helps me remember to avoid messaging a particular lady again in the future.


rm_Captain4779 38M
60 posts
3/30/2015 11:30 am

I was always taught it's at least polite to say hello if someone takes the time to initiate


SxyBlkScorpio1 47M

3/31/2015 6:49 pm

I would at least like to know the person isn't interested rather than not hearing anything from them. That's just like being ignored, which to me is rude.


HereForFunSG 55M
54 posts
4/4/2015 4:31 pm

yes, I would expect a reply...I find it quite rude not replying, at least say yes or no....


fornow375 48M
31 posts
4/11/2015 1:03 pm

I would like to know. Maybe there is something insignificant to me that I am doing to which I can change.


sirarnhem 84M
24 posts
4/12/2015 9:24 pm

Boiler plate answer is better than no answer. Just don't string me along, okay?


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