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all you have to do is ask  

thegrlsnme 67F
2762 posts
8/21/2016 10:32 am
all you have to do is ask


Good afternoon, i hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face. i have a smile on my face, but it is not a secret.

I don't know if this happens to any of you, but it does me quite often.

I have people hit on me here everyday. Some, I am interested in enough to continue the conversation, with the hopes of a meet n greet.

But, there is always a but. Some of you never seem to get out of the starting gate.

Meaning, if you don't ask to meet, nothing is going anywhere.

This is how it should work here or anywhere. We message back and forth here.

If there is mutual interest, you text and talk on the phone.

From there you do a meet n greet, and from there, you figure out where things are going, if they are going anywhere.

For some reason, many of you want to message here, and/or talk and text on the phone until one of us quits. you never get out of the starting gate.

There are only so many things you can talk about without meeting each other. Meeting and knowing that person, is an important step in the whole process.

It seems many of you cannot get to that point for whatever reason.

This is how it works.

I received a message, and responded back. The messages came and went. this was over a day or two.

He then messaged:

HI, LINDA, I AM ........ WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT FOR DINNER OR MEET OVER A DRINK. he left his phone number.

I responded, yes I would love to meet you over a beer. I sent my number.

That was yesterday, we are meeting tonight.

See, how simple that was.

Its a casual meeting between two people, decided what they are doing. But, many of you cant' get there for whatever reason.

I'm not here to be somebody's penpal or phone buddy. If you are, great. I know there are people here for just that. Not me.

Have a great day.


Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


elf123 73M  
99 posts
8/21/2016 10:35 am

Great blog and sooo true, wish I were closer, would luv to have a girl with a beer or 2/ d


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/21/2016 10:43 am

    Quoting elf123:
    Great blog and sooo true, wish I were closer, would luv to have a girl with a beer or 2/ d
so many cant get passed the messaging talking thing, and although i do enjoy conversation, that ends at a point too. especially if you don't know someone personally............thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


HappyTongue53 70M
36 posts
8/21/2016 11:18 am

And let's not forget that if the message is well written and sincere it might resonate enough to get a better response that says more than a one line, generic one, and therefore meeting becomes all the more intriguing!


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/21/2016 11:43 am

    Quoting HappyTongue53:
    And let's not forget that if the message is well written and sincere it might resonate enough to get a better response that says more than a one line, generic one, and therefore meeting becomes all the more intriguing!
That is true........thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
8/21/2016 12:09 pm

This is how it should work here or anywhere. We message back and forth here.
If there is mutual interest, you text and talk on the phone. From there you do a meet n greet,


Actually there's a better way; Skip the , "Phone text and talk". Big waste of time. Don't waste time. Go meet him for 15 to 30 minutes that day or the next day. [Not over drinks or food]. First go find out if there is any chemistry.

After volleying messages back and forth for awhile, that day, there is clearly "Interest" so all he has to do , is say, "I want to meet you", and say, when and where.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
8/21/2016 2:56 pm

Not a good idea for a man to preface a meeting by "Asking". That is weak.

The male impacts the female more strongly on a visceral level if he "Capt Kirks" her. He "Tells" her what he wants.

There's no intrusion. She still says , "Yes" or "No".


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/21/2016 8:02 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    This is how it should work here or anywhere. We message back and forth here.
    If there is mutual interest, you text and talk on the phone. From there you do a meet n greet,

    Actually there's a better way; Skip the , "Phone text and talk". Big waste of time. Don't waste time. Go meet him for 15 to 30 minutes that day or the next day. [Not over drinks or food]. First go find out if there is any chemistry.

    After volleying messages back and forth for awhile, that day, there is clearly "Interest" so all he has to do , is say, "I want to meet you", and say, when and where.
I prefer a beer......thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/21/2016 8:03 pm

    Quoting mcmaniac:
    Excellent!!!! Hope you have fun, get pics, or better, get vide-ohohoh!>>!
You and your videos.............thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/21/2016 8:04 pm

    Quoting CaptainDilfCT:
    for some people, myself included, it's not that easy to even send the initial "hello"
    The reasons are different for everyone
But you have to eventually meet........thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/21/2016 8:05 pm

    Quoting 12pleas:
    its hard to make something happen from this site.
I prefer this site over others. But I'm always open to suggestions.....thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/21/2016 8:07 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    Not a good idea for a man to preface a meeting by "Asking". That is weak.

    The male impacts the female more strongly on a visceral level if he "Capt Kirks" her. He "Tells" her what he wants.

    There's no intrusion. She still says , "Yes" or "No".
That's how it should be, but so many do not get passed the messaging part....thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/21/2016 8:08 pm

    Quoting  :

I'm pretty much like that as well, I will ask.......thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
8/22/2016 8:54 am

Why thank you very much for reading and commenting......thegrls

Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


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