The profile says straight, but....  

4thoseabout2cock 52M
221 posts
9/1/2006 11:50 am

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The profile says straight, but....

I've been wondering. What is bi-curious? I mean, obviously it's up to the individual to categorize themselves, but.....

Here's my dilemma: My profile says straight. My main goal on AdultFriendFinder being to meet women willing to have some fun-on-the-side with a married guy. Their relationship status not being relevant to me. I have been interested in joining a couple for mutual pleasure of the woman involved, some of which say "we're looking for a bi or bi-curious guy", to which I explain my main intent, and that I am bi-curious. I have actually changed my profile to say bi-curious, but then I get the women saying "I only want a straight guy".

So, that leads me to the question. I absolutely love women. Having sex with them is actually secondary to pleasing them first. Yeah I know, we all say that. It's true. There is no better turn on to me than that of having a woman uncontrollably orgasm at my hand. I love that.

Now, the bi-curious part. I have imagined, dreamed, day-dreamed, fantasized of what it would be like to suck a guy off. I personally don't get that much out of receiving's good, don't get me wrong, but again, the pleasuring of another human being is so intense. So, am I bi-curious?

Next question follows. If I ever followed through with that fantasy - pleasing another guy (or being pleased by another guy), would I then change my profile to Bi?


VaCpl_69 36M/32F
34 posts
9/1/2006 12:36 pm

You're Bi-curious right now. The minute you engage with another male, you become bi-sexual without the desire for male-to-male intercourse.

my thoughts, as long as everyone is okay with it, do wahtever the FUCK you want. Labels should only be used to narrow the search, not catagorize in a negative light.

Rob & C.

marathonman45202 53M
6640 posts
9/1/2006 12:41 pm

My experience is that this has not been the easiest place for a bi guy to hook up with women or m/f couples. And male bisexuality is generally not accepted in the way that female bisexuality is - HUGE double-standard, especially on a site that is predominantly male.

I think it would be nice to drop the labels! You're absolutely clear that you love women, and that you have fantasies about MM contact. Straight? Bi? It should only matter to you.

If I apply the labels to myself, I have to say that I am gay with bi tendencies. The problem with that is, when I'm having sex with a woman there's nothing gay about it.

I hope this helps.

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rm_Jacques4u2 43M

9/1/2006 10:21 pm

Well, my "label" for you would be bi-curious until you actually experience being with a man, and want to do it again. Then it would change to "bi" if you want to label it. I am also married, and enjoy sex with my wife, but my fantasies are mainly about men. I have fulfilled some of those fantasies, but also have come close to being with another woman. I don't want to replace my wife with another woman, but really love being with men. Let me know if you want to explore your fantasy...I'm a nice guy who can go whatever pace you choose.

Good luck...let me know...

meerkittykat 42F

9/4/2006 12:06 am

Labels suck. Be whomever you want to be.

Most of us have fantasies and tendencies that cater to same sex and different sex relationships. I sleep with men and women. Right now I prefer women. That may change and then I'd prefer men. I'm not gonna bother labelling myself because once you have that label, and you shed it for whatever reason(I know women who were bisexual, slept with women, and really decided they didn't feel anything for women anymore) then people question your honesty.

Plus, with labels we assume they only represent sexuality. What about the woman who doesn't enjoy sex with men at all, but is married and having sex with her husband and lives in a repressed community where homosexual relationships are stigmatized? According to the purely sexual "label" she is "straight." Emotionally, she is a "lesbian."

Labels are too self-confining. Don't pigeon-hole yourself. When you get in 1-1 situations, just talk to people you're interested in pursuing. Don't worry about semantics.

4thoseabout2cock 52M

9/4/2006 4:20 pm

Labels, labels, labels!!!

Thank you for your responses. Let's just get together already!

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