Life, the Universe and Everything  

4playman4play 62M
13 posts
4/27/2005 7:28 am

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Life, the Universe and Everything

Well, let's start with life. I thought I would start high and slowly slip into rambling and whinging. So, why are you on AdultFriendFinder? When I think of why I am here, I always think of the Friedrich Nietzsche quote "Against boredom, even the gods themselves struggle in vain". (I find that quoting a German philosopher early on in a blog guarantees that only two of us are now left in a dialogue). Seriously, we have all done the vanilla thing, which I really enjoyed for the years of my youth but, however good and inventive your partner unless you step out of what is considered by some as "normal", boredom sets in. To quote Marvin, the paranoid android in "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" when he was given the job of parking cars for the restaurant at the end of the Universe, the first 10 million years are the worst - then the next 10 million, then... (you get the picture). So, we go for the non-vanilla alternative, but then we slip into the same problem - the predictability of it all. You do this, she does that, then we do... Having analysed why we all fall into this pattern for some or all of our lives I believe there are two contributory problems. The first is lack of time, it is far easier to do the same thing, experiemntation takes time. Secondly, it's all about imagination, this is the greatest thing for me, the anticipation of what is to come. Building slowly to a climax, stretching desire further and further, taking someone through their perceived limits. Without imagination (from at least one partner), without the teasing and talking about things that may occur - the building of anticipation - we can easily slip back to boredom. And the greatest talent someone can have to accomplish this is communication, not just talking, but being able to judge from the body language and mental state of a partner just how far to go at this moment. Judged correctly and your partner will be able to go a little further next time - its as if they slip into the zone, here but not here - on a higher state of awareness. I could go on but let's see the feedback to this before trying so more.

TakesTeatsStood 50M
505 posts
4/27/2005 7:49 am

You made my head hurt.....

No fair sucking me in with the hitchhiker reference.

smileguyqc 53M

4/27/2005 8:48 am

Yes, boredom is the reason. AdultFriendFinder does two things. It improves the relationship I have and it helps me to make new connections. My wife meets someone new and she comes back from that fully charged and she has learned, ummmm, new tricks. As for new conections, it would be nice to have more time, but when it does happen its like being on another planet. Just for a few hours, no work, no wife, no kids, just me and someone new. Notice I don't say better, just new, different.

martin-1 41M

4/27/2005 8:59 am

Anyone serving pan-galactic gargle blasters.. I need on now...

So long and thanks for all the fish!

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