Mind over Matter  

4biddenlove4us 49F
262 posts
6/27/2006 8:43 am

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7/26/2006 7:00 pm

Mind over Matter

I met this lovely bloke but although I didn't fancy him, I hoped we would be friends. Trouble is I grew quite fond of him but not in the way he wanted. He alternates between being really angry with me for not wanting to go out with him, to worshippping the ground I walked on. Whenever I spoke to him, things just seemed to get worse. I was fond of him while he became obsessed with me. My fatal error was to stay with him for a time without a clear sense of what his intentions were and how it would be interpreted. My visit was purely symbolic in his life. Now it seems that all his efforts were being thrown back in his face and has caused him to become angry (understandably). What I don't understand is how he went from worshipping me to hating me but I do understand that he felt passionate about the situation. I just wish that love and hate emotions weren't so tandem. Now, I tread carefully before committing myself even to a friendship because that too might be mis- interpreted as being in-love and don't wish to make anyones life miserable.


rm_Benkai7 55M
2358 posts
6/27/2006 12:13 pm

Hello "4biddenlove4us".

Your way of writing is telling me, you愉e sensitive and sensible and I don愒 want to be rude or unpolite ... (maybe I惴 too direct), but ...

??? ... "understandably" ... ??? ... 愜uess you愉e judging yourself in the wrong way and to hard too ...

You are responsible for your acting only, but not for his behaviour or his acting ... and if you might (or want to) believe in, ... the other one is responsible with minimum 50% ...

Benkai7


GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3038 posts
6/27/2006 9:59 pm

plese do not blame yourself, for the emotions of others

You are not responsible for the way he feels , he is!

he may well be a nice person, but he certainly is very emotionaly unstable.

best of luck to you


4biddenlove4us 49F

7/25/2006 12:02 am

< speechless at both comments of Benkai7 and GB_Cple


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