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GREAT ORAL SEX: Lesson 2 - Cunnilingis
GREAT ORAL SEX: Lesson 2 - Cunnilingis
Guide to Great Oral Sex
by John and Betsy
HOW TO EAT PUSSY. (Betsy's Perspective)
I have a lot of respect for all you men who like to give a woman head because there are too few of you out there ‒ and I'm sure I'm not the only woman who says this. But some of you guys who are giving it the old college try are not doing too well, so maybe this little lesson will help you to get it right. When a woman finds a man who loves to eat pussy, she's found a treasure she's not going to let go of too quickly. This guy is one rare customer, and she knows it. She won't even tell her girl friends about it or he'll become the most popular man in town. So remember, all guys can screw and most of them usually do it satisfactorily, but the man who gives good head has it made!
Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you have the world's most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she's going to worry whether or not you'll like her pussy, so while you're petting and stroking her tell her that she's beautiful. Talk to her about her it; tell her how how soft and warm it feels, and how pretty it is.
Take a close look at her vagina. Spread the outer labia and expose her inner lips; softly blow on them, then lick them ever so lightly. Gently pull up on the tops of her labia until you expose her clit. Woman have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized dicks. It doesn't mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm goes. All it means is that more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.
Before you touch a woman's clit, make sure your finger is wet. Lick your fingers, or moisten them with her pussy juices or the secretion from your own dripping cock. Her clit doesn't have any juices of its own and it's extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it's dry, and that hurts! But don't touch her clit right now anyway. You have to work up to that. Until she becomes aroused and well lubricated, her clit is too delicate and sensitive to be rubbed.
Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is very sensitive. Lick it. Kiss it. Make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Bring your mouth dangerously close to it, then float away. Make her anticipate your tongue. Lick the crease where each of her legs joins her body. Nuzzle your face into her bush ‒ if she's got one. Now, to further excite her, brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it.
After you've done this to the point where her hips are starting gyrate and she's straining to get more of you close to her, put your lips on top of her slit. Spread her legs wider with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you're about to eat must be done gently. Kiss her labia softly at first, then harder. Use your tongue to separate her lips. She'll open her legs wider in invitation to your probing tongue. When she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of the luscious, wet-warm pussy flesh.
Now, slide your tongue in and out of her vagina and tongue fuck her. Believe me, this feels sooooo goooood! It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants her clit to have some attention. Check it out. See if it's gotten hard enough to peek out of its covering. If so, lick it. If you can't see it, it's waiting for you underneath. Bring your tongue up to the top of her slit and probe for her clit. You may barely feel its presence, but even if you can't locate this tiny pearl you can make it rise more by licking the foreskin that covers it. Gently separate the lips and put your tongue against her clit, whether it's hood covered or not. Press your face into her pussy and flick your tongue rapidly against her clit. Her hips will gyrate and her legs start to shudder.
When you sense she's getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an "O" and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck it gently and watch your lady's face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she really digs it, increase the suction. Go with her. When she lifts her pelvis and presses it against your mouth with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her. Don't fight her; hang on and keep your hot mouth on her clit, always sucking. Don't let go! That's what she'll be saying, too. "Please don't stop, don't ever stop!" There's a reason for saying that: most men stop too soon.
But back to your pussy eating session. There's another thing you can do to intensify your woman's pleasure. You can finger fuck her while she's enjoying your clit sucking talents. Whether it's before coming or after, she'll dig this! In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area about two-three inches up in the front wall of her vagina ‒ her “G-spot”. This is what your cock usually rubs up against when you're screwing her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the job. Use two fingers ‒ one is too skinny and three are too wide and therefore can't get deep enough. By now, her pussy will be dripping wet. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Search for the little bulge that's her G-spot. Finger her. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing. She'll let you know when you're doing something right.
If you're sucking her clit and fingering her at the same time, you're giving her far more stimulation than with your dick alone. So you can believe it that she's getting high on this. If there's any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Every woman is unique, so the symptoms might vary. Her nipples will get hard when she's excited; she might flush scarlet; she may begin to tremble and her hips start to buck, or she may make soft mewing or crying sounds that gradually increase in volume as her climax approaches. Get to know her signs and you'll be a far more sensitive lover.
When she starts to cum, for heaven's sake don't let go of her clit. Hang in there for the duration. Slide your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Slip your tongue rapidly in and out of her hole. If your fingers are inside, move them in and out quickly with you palm upwards so you can massage her “G-spot” with your fingertips. When she comes, she'll explode.
After she's had her first orgasm her clit may be too sensitive for more sucking or fingering immediately. Give her a few minutes to recover, but in the interval kiss and nuzzle her breasts, stomach and ass until she's ready for more ‒ and believe me, she will want more and she won't be shy about telling you! If you play your cards right, you'll give her some fantastic multiple orgasms this way.
A woman stays excited for a full hour after she's had an orgasm. Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at having 56 orgasms in one session! Do you know what effect you'll have on a woman you give that many orgasms to? She'll be your love slave for life!
Another gem of advice: don't ignore her ass. This is a very sensitive area, especially when your woman is on a sex high. As you're licking her clit and fingering her with your index and middle fingers, use your ring finger as a butt dildo, but moisten it first with your saliva or her pussy juice. Your ring finger's small enough not to cause her any discomfort, but large enough to give her some real pleasure when combined with your tongue action. Also, don't turn your nose up at the thought of analingus. Now, I know what you're thinking: "Yuck, it's shitty down there." Sure it is sometimes, and if she's smelly then ignore this advice. But if you've showered together before getting down to serious licking, her asshole, like her pussy, should be kissing sweet. And she will love it!
The last piece of advice I have for you guys is this: After she's finally finished coming and you've given her the best head she's ever had, don't just get up and walk away. Talk to her quietly and caress her gently until she's come all the way down. A man can get his rocks off and go to sleep in the same breath, but a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few minutes after sex. Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experience you can have. But it's what you make of it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover's signals and, most of all, enjoy yourself.
My First Blow Job.
Now, I'll give you gals some hints how to give your lover the best blow job he's ever had. After all, what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
I have a confession to make: I had lived a very sheltered life before I was introduced to oral sex. I'd never had sex with anyone but my ex-husband. In over 30 years of dating and marriage, he'd never gone down on me and I would never have dared to try giving him head. Needless to say, I didn't have a lot of orgasms during our marriage.
Thankfully, I met a man who introduced me to the pleasures of oral sex, which is why I'm writing this. There may be a lot of you ladies out there who are missing the best orgasms of your lives, so here are some tips I've learned the hard way (pun intended).
The October 1996 issue of Playboy reported that in a sex survey of college students, 95 to 98 percent of them had tried oral sex, and that 75 percent of both male and female students had engaged in oral sex in the previous month. Sixty-one percent of the women reported that they let the man come in their mouth; a third said they had swallowed it, and another third said it depended upon who they were giving head to. Obviously, oral sex has a lot going for it, but just doing it and doing it well are two different matters.
I'll never forget the first time John went down on me. On our third date, as we sat in a movie theater, he started gently stroking the inside of my right thigh. His touch was electrifying and within minutes I had a strong, sudden orgasm. He looked at me with surprise, since he'd never even gotten close to my crotch. I hadn't had any sex since my divorce six years earlier and I'd never masturbated in my life. I couldn't remember the last orgasm I'd had, so I guess I was ready. We left in the middle of the movie and could hardly wait to get back to my place.
He carried me into my bedroom, laid me on the bed, and slowly undressed me, fondling my breasts and kissing me passionately. My mind was in a whirl. I wanted him, but I was afraid he'd just screw me and say goodbye. How wrong I was! Before he removed my panties, he licked my crotch from the outside to get me used to what he was about to do. As he slowly slid my panties down and exposed my pussy, he buried his face in my bush and started gently kissing and then licking me. I quickly exploded with a massive orgasm and then had several more in rapid succession. Then he smiled at me and kissed me, his face wet with my juices, and indicated it was my turn to please him. I knew what he wanted, but I didn't have a clue what to do.
"I've never done this before," I confessed. "What do you want me to do?"
Without speaking, he put his hard cock against my face and caressed my cheek with it, then brushed it over my lips as he moved it to my other cheek. Back and forth he went, each time leaving a trail of lubrication on my lips. I licked my lips and tasted it. It tasted good and I wanted more. I began licking the head of his prick, shyly at first, then eagerly. I could tell from his reactions that he was enjoying it ‒ and I was, too. He had given me great pleasure and I wanted to please him. I took his cock deeper into my mouth, but my teeth scraped him and he taught me how to fold my lips over my teeth.
"Move my cock slowly in and out as you suck it. I don't want to choke you, so put your hand around it so I can't push it down your throat too far. Move your hand slowly up and down my cock as you're sucking it." After a very few minutes I could tell his climax wasn't far off. "When I come, swallow fast.” he said. “Suck hard. Don't stop sucking and keep swallowing!"
His semen was thick and warm in my mouth and surprisingly sweet tasting. As I sucked him off, he flipped over me and ate me out again until I came again. The night didn't end with just head, however. We were both wild with desire and he fucked me like I'd never been screwed before!
I've been a confirmed fellatrix and swallower ever since that night. I love it and frequently have an orgasm as I'm sucking him off! There's probably a lot of women who think that sticking their guy's prick in their mouth is all there is to a blow job. Ah, but it's what you do with it once it's in there that makes all the difference in the world! The operative word is "job" ‒ it's something you have to work at to perfect your technique. It's knowing when to lick, when to suck, when to move your hand, when to nibble, and when to pause. I suppose that every man is different, but finding our what pleases him is what makes the "job" so exciting. Since I can't tell you exactly how it feels to have a blow job, my dear lover will supply some of his own experiences.
I got my first blow job from a Filipino flight attendant I was dating when I lived in Manila. She was also the first woman I went down on. That first BJ was memorable and it got me hooked on oral sex, both as a giver and as a receiver.
My first wife, who was still a virgin at the age of 31 when I married her, thought oral sex was "disgusting" and she said I was "perverted" whenever I tried to go down on her. But one night, after thirteen years of marriage, she finally let me. After she came, her comment was, "So that's what I've been missing all these years!" I asked her to return the favor. She grudgingly agreed, “but just warn me when you're going to come.”
Hell, I was so turned on by the fact that she was actually doing it that I shot off almost immediately without warning her. She gagged, ran to the bathroom and vomited. She swore she'd never do it again, and she didn’t. A few months later, we split up. This may make me sound like a shit, but my unsatisfactory sex life at home was a strong factor in my decision.
To swallow or spit, that's a decision all women face when they give head. I must confess that I prefer it when a woman swallows my semen. I think it's the ultimate act of acceptance and I remember feeling slightly rejected if my partner rushed to the bathroom and spat it out. Over the years, I've learned how to teach a woman who has never swallowed semen before how to do it. First, however, I had to taste it myself. It took me a long time to get up the courage to taste my own semen. I guess I was afraid I'd turn gay. I haven't! Now, from time to time after shooting my load I go down on J., lap it up and transfer it to her mouth. She also likes to lick my dick clean after we fuck. Sometimes, after J. gives me a blow job she shares it with me. She says it's a turn on for her ‒ and for me, too.
Why are some women averse to swallowing semen? I think it's purely psychological. Semen is almost 100 percent protein, and as long as a man doesn't have AIDS or a venereal disease there's nothing in his semen that can hurt you. Sometimes it may taste completely bland; at other times it may have a slightly salty or sweet taste, but it's not unpleasant unless he's eaten raw onions or garlic the day before. I've tasted my own semen and I haven't died or gone "gay" yet! I have one piece of advice to help you women overcome any aversion the first time you try it: swallow fast!
Your most sensitive taste buds are on the tip of your tongue, so as your man starts to orgasm direct the spurts to the back of your mouth and then quickly "down the hatch." I don't recommend swishing it around in your mouth until after you've developed a taste for it. Have a glass of water or fruit juice handy as a chaser if you're squeamish. I'm convinced there must be something addictive about the taste of semen. Most women I've known have grown to love the taste of semen once they got used to it. J. literally licks her lips in anticipation before giving me head ‒ and afterwards, as well. I've had sex with more than a hundred women over the years and most of them have given me head, but I can say she gives me the best blow jobs I've ever had! She does it expertly and with love in her heart, and these two ingredients are impossible to beat. I have no desire to look elsewhere.
A lot of has been written about "deep throat," which is a developed technique that enables a woman to relax her throat muscles and suppress the gag reflex so she's able to take a man's entire erect cock into her mouth and down her throat. I've been with one woman whose jaw was so tight that she could barely get the head of my dick in her mouth. Most of the others I've made lover to could get me about half way down; one or two were able to take the whole thing. My cock isn't excessively long, but it is rather thick. Do I like deep throat? Yeah, I admit the depth of penetration is a turn on, but it's really how a woman uses her tongue, lips and teeth that results in the best head.
Did I say teeth? One deep throat specialist I used to date actually chewed me very lightly on the way down and again on the way back out. That felt awfully good! Another one used to nibble the underside of my prick, like she was eating an ear of corn. That was great, too. But ladies, if you try this, please nibble GENTLY, SOFTLY and LIGHTLY!
Here's one very enjoyable experience I want to share. I had one of my most memorable blow jobs in a bathtub. The water was quite hot. My companion set a bowl of ice cubes next to the tub. First, she put an ice cube in her mouth and then my prick, which was very warm from the bath water. The shock was astonishing! She kept alternating submerging my cock in the hot water and then putting it in her cold mouth. Sometimes, she applied an ice cube to my hot balls. Each time the temperature change was electrifying. When I finally came, it was incredible. I heartily recommend this procedure!
Licking and sucking a guy's balls is another nice variation and some guys shave their scrotum so their lady friend doesn't get a floss job. Don't ignore the underside of the head, ladies. It's very sensitive. One of my former lovers used to play my cock like a harmonica, moving her mouth rapidly up and down the underside as she licked and nibbled. When your mouth and jaw muscles start to tire, ladies, and you've had about all the sucking you can handle, stick his prick in your pussy. I guarantee he won't mind one little bit. When he starts to come, use your index and middle fingers and suddenly press hard just behind his balls. This gives his prostate a turbo boost and adds power to his ejaculation.
While on the subject of ejaculation, here's a little known fact: some women can actually ejaculate when they orgasm. Now, I'm not talking about the normal slippery lubricating stuff that flows when a woman gets sexually aroused; no, with considerable force these rare woman expel an ounce or more of clear fluid that will soak your bed ‒ and your face if you're eating her at the time. If this happens to you, don't panic! She's NOT pissing!
The G-spot is actually a spongy mass called the paraurethral glands and they surround the lower end of her ureter, rather similar to a man's prostate. These glands are more productive in some women than in others, just as some men produce more semen than others. When these women have an orgasm, they have a powerful lower contraction that squeezes the paraurethral glands and propels the liquid right out the urethra ‒ and some of them really squirt! So, guys, if this happens to you, you have a rare one. It may get a bit messy sometimes, but it's a great experience, and it does taste good!
As you might have gathered by now, oral sex is an important part of our sex life. Since my man and I have been together I've become highly orgasmic and can come a half a dozen times or more in one session and I often have multiple orgasms. Oral sex and the activation of my G-spot have had a lot to do with my sexual awakening. I can also cum when he rubs the base of my spine, or stimulates my ear with his finger or tongue, when he sucks my nipples, or fingers my anus. My whole body vibrates to his touch and he plays me like a master violinist. With the right partner, I'm sure most of you ladies can become multi-orgasmic also. Now, I'm working on ejaculating. Ejaculating may be natural for some women, but I having to learn how to relax and stop worrying about making a mess on the bed.
John and I aren't spring chickens any more; in fact, we're both senior citizens. If people our age can have great sex, think of what you young people can have! Just as screwing is more than sliding a penis in and out of a warm dark hole, there's a lot more to oral sex than just applying a mouth to someone's genitals. It's what you do when your mouth and tongue get there.