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rm_1hotwahine 70F
21089 posts
8/13/2006 5:50 pm

Some people learn the fundamentals of diving before they go off the high board. Others close their eyes, hold their nose and just jump. I recommend the second one.


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warmandsexy52 71M
13158 posts
8/13/2006 5:55 pm

There are many within long term relationships who desire to be individual and free. The grass is always greener.

It seems that life is too short to have all the things we want to have, do all the things we want to do, and be all the people we want to be.

Hugs sweetie {=}

warm xx


ilsgicemru 79M
2817 posts
8/13/2006 9:02 pm


...................... Polly

I have been with my wife 39 years !! .. Sad to say that we were both too emotionally "sick" to NOT stay married to each other !! .. Often . I wondered who else would have me ? .. And she probably wondered who would have her !! .. Marriage became a habit !!

I am happy to say that since I recognised our "emotional dependence" on each other .. I have become much happier with my life !! .. I am ready to 'break' the 'addiction' to her and move on with my life . if she doesn't want to get healthier herself !! .. I know now that I am a 'whole' person . worthy of having a good relationship and that I don't need someone to 'complete' me !! .. My wife and I have always been .. 1/2 + 1/2 = 1 .. A good healthy marriage should be 1 + 1 = 2 or even 3 !!

I recognise a lot of myself in you Polly .. I was a self sufficient loner !!! .. But I was that way out of fear .. not choice !! .......... The solution to the problem with intimacy is . for us to love ourselves first !! .. I have come to "Love myself" today .. And that allows me to love others !!

I Love You Polly . as I love myself and others !!

...................... ils


papyrina 58F
21123 posts
8/14/2006 5:05 am

polly i'm exactly the same wishing i could be deeper while at the same time very protective of my feelings and wanting to keep moving on,


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


horny4770 67M

8/14/2006 11:47 am

You stated "But my real world was inside. I didn’t invite other people inside." Do you invite them into your real world now? I think we learn to live where we are the most comfortable and unless we step outside of that nothing really changes.

I've been guilty of that for quite some time myself. It felt safe and familiar but also incomplete. Inviting others into my private place has been and still is a difficult task because of the vulnerabiliy it exposes me to and I don't like that.

No easy answers. Sometimes it's a matter of 'flying by the seat of your pants' so to speak, and taking some emotional risks. Sometimes they pay off.


economickrisis 62M

8/16/2006 2:35 am

G'day luv, the aloneness of an only child seems a very different place to the childhood that I was very lucky to have. Do you think that only children generally grow up to have difficulty in forming long term relationships?


Theflinkychick 112F

8/17/2006 4:13 am

Polly, you've been going deep... into yourself. I don't think you CAN go deep with someone else until you've braved the deep dark places inside yourself. Going deep is scary, but it is worth it.

Not all who wander are lost.


redswallow777 55M
6809 posts
8/18/2006 8:08 am

Perhaps you are just a late bloomer, like me, but ahhhhh....you are such a lovely blossom....so frank, so honest. I think you do know how to proceed....you are already doing it in your own fashion, your own style.....just keep moving forward. The path will appear under your feet.


jerry4oralfun 69M

9/6/2006 10:36 am

Polly: Boy how I can relate. Grew up a loaner for the most part and still am. I'm not much for crowds and meeting new people. I'm very shy in person but on places like this I can open up more and be a different person. Don't get me wrong, I do loosen up when I get to know someone but have a very difficult time getting started. I guess my fantasies are what brought me to A F F in the first place. Wondering about a lot of things and I think I've found I'm actually a lot like many of the folks here. In touch with my sexual desires and wishing there were people I could meet for real and experience something new with.


CB_2 58F

9/9/2006 3:01 pm

Intimate? No, I'm Just Gregarious

Oh yes, I'm totally with you on that one! I care easily but quite shallowly, I fear. Sometimes I feel I would like to be deeper than that, but other times I realise it protects me from getting too badly hurt.

Blogito ergo sum.


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