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waggypolly
11/26/2008 3:57 pm
Last Read:
12/21/2008 7:48 pm
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Him (a standard message): I feel we can really have fun and hit it off, do you want to explore things further?
Polly: Thanks for contacting me! Yes I'd be happy to explore things further. I'm new to this service, and still exploring how things work here. What do we do now? Exchange a few emails? It sounds like we'd have a bit to talk about.
Him: … and yes I like your profile there very much so and would love to be given the privilege and opportunity to meet up and chat with you soon, and see perhaps if there is any additional comfort and liking for each other if so it could be a good match for each other. Perhaps we can meet up and have a chat over a coffee soon to compare our thoughts wants needs and desires directions in which we might like our life and future path to progress that’s my thoughts.
Polly: I'd be happy to have a coffee - I think it's a good idea to meet lots of different people. Why don't you start by throwing out some possible times? And what is a good café to meet in?
Him: i can come over and pick you up was thinking we can have coffee at Xxxx theres a nice coffee shop there so what part of the coast are you at then
Polly: Xxxx is convenient for me. Just let me know which café and I'll meet you there.
Him: Great then Polly I love your profile as well then so lets meet up soon will give you a call asap
However i must tell you the honest truth I have been on my own now for a long time and I have become used to my space in life so what I feel I am seeking is a lover in my life again however I don’t feel sure if I would want it to be a 24/7 style relationship maybe a relationship where we both have our space but get together on a regular basis and share quality time together most importantly a level playing field for us both.
So can you send me your thoughts then and what days best suite you to meet up.
Polly: I’ve just come to Xxxx to settle. At this stage I’m looking for friends. I enjoy men’s company and I don’t have many friends in Xxxx yet. I’ll enjoy having a coffee with you, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to assume that a special relationship is going to develop out of a friendship. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn’t! It is a good idea to get to know lots of people of the other sex, and wait to find out if any of the friendships turn out to be special. That’s how I play it.
Him: look forward to meeting with you soon feel comftable when we spoke and enjoyed our chat feel we can achieve much together regards and best wishes [name withheld] xx oo xx
This is the best contact I’ve found on Vanilla Dating. Can I achieve much with this man? Is he my type? Should I persist with the contact?
My thanks to everyone who has completed The Love Questionnaire.
This is Polly, still Wagging 
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265 posts 11/26/2008 10:49 pm |
I'm not sure but it has all the earmarks of someone looking for a friend with benefits. 
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:14 pm:
Perhaps FwB is a fair thing to be looking for. (I think I reacted against his lack of punctuation.)
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4600 posts 11/26/2008 11:03 pm |
A few people on Adult FriendFinder met, fell in love and got married. Do you think if you amended your profile and say what you say in the vanilla site, you might find someone with whom to have a long term relationship here? 
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:15 pm:
I got a bit fed up with all the idiots on here ... but perhaps, if all else fails ....
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7975 posts 11/26/2008 11:55 pm |
Hmmm I'm not sure this one has a whole lot of potential, but at least he's not impolite just a wee bit obtuse maybe. 
 1DF
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:16 pm:
I agree.
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3346 posts 11/27/2008 12:01 am |
Tread carefully dear Polly, words are easy to come by but there does seem to be an underlying current of control in the text.
Nevertheless I hope you find what you want and find happiness.
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:16 pm:
I was sensing some control too.
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6809 posts 11/27/2008 3:55 am |
Sure. Go meet him for coffee.
You never know what may happen, regardless of what EITHER of you may THINK they feel, untill you meet.
Sometimes, magical things happen at that moment.
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:17 pm:
I'm profligate. I'd meet anyone for coffee.
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6389 posts 11/27/2008 6:37 am |
I would suggest playing it out and see how it goes. I like the way you candidly kept your options open here and aren’t necessarily hoping for something grand...but then, you never know...  Much success, Polly! 
H. 
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:18 pm:
I think I need some practice meeting people for coffee, so that when someone really nice comes along I'll be all relaxed and happy.
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1814 posts 11/27/2008 6:56 am |
It doesn't seem to 'zing' - but then again, he does seem to be trying to be 'clear' in his own way about not giving the wrong impression. I didn't get a control vibe, more one of someone who is not comfortable in this new internet 'dating' venue.. not necessarily sure what to say, or what not to say.
sure, meet him for coffee and 'see' if he 'feels' good to you. Not everyone is dazzling in text.
*smile* = *s* -v
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:18 pm:
I'm certain he won't "feel good," heck he doesn't know how to use punctuation ... or is that prejudice?
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20038 posts 11/27/2008 6:00 pm |
Thanksgiving
The year has turned its circle,
The seasons come and go.
The harvest all is gathered in
And chilly north winds blow.
Orchards have shared their treasures,
The fields, their yellow grain,
So open wide the doorway ---
Thanksgiving comes again!
Happy Thanksgiving sweet Polly!!!
  []  
Seduce my mind and my body
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:19 pm:
Neat poem and thanks. We don't celebrate Thanksgiving Down Under. And we are experienceing an extraordinarily cold spring season.
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5037 posts 11/28/2008 5:07 am |
I would suggest that you not over analyze at this point though. It sounds good and if I were you, I'd just go and meet up with an open mind.
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:20 pm:
Just going along for the practice ... I'm sure he'll be harmless enough.
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3370 posts 11/28/2008 1:48 pm |
Cagey bugger isn't he.
~*~ some people drink from the fountain of knowledge others just gargle and spit ~*~
waggypolly replies on 11/28/2008 8:21 pm:
... and watch me be cagey in return!
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11/29/2008 5:12 am |
ASK HIM IF HAS EVER SHOVED HIS DICK INTO THE MICROWAVE OVEN. IF NOT BE CAUTIOUS. HE MAY BE DANGEROUS.
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1058 posts 11/29/2008 3:15 pm |
There's such a place called, 'Vanilla Dating'? I've never heard of such a thing. That rapport was wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy toooooooooooo fast for me. Love, ML xox
Be kind, everyone is fighting their own battle. ~Plato Let's MAKE this a NEW Year
waggypolly replies on 12/1/2008 9:09 pm:
No ... just one of those vanilla sites ...
You've nailed it! The rapport was too fast, and it makes me feel uneasy.
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19354 posts 11/29/2008 8:31 pm |
Nothing ventured nothing gained. He sounded nervous to me with the way he communicated to you, and may not be a bad thing!
The Healing Circle...
waggypolly replies on 12/1/2008 9:11 pm:
I tend to lead my life on the nothing ventured nothing gained principle and that's why I shall meet this guy. But not with high hopes unfortunately.
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12723 posts 11/30/2008 6:43 am |
 Polly.
I was beginning to lose count as to how many time he said that he liked your profile.
Also, he wanted to pick you up instead of meeting at the cafe. That would send up a yellow-alert right there. He seems to want the old NSA flings, which is typical for this site.
Go by your instincts.
waggypolly replies on 12/1/2008 9:12 pm:
I had exactly those responses. But during phone calls I realised that the offer to pick me up was plain naivity. When we meet I'll explain the "rules" to him.
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54312 posts 11/30/2008 9:48 pm |
Never know,till ya go  Good luck
When someone comes along,gonna give ya some love and affection,I say..Get it while ya can.
     
waggypolly replies on 12/1/2008 9:13 pm:
Yes I will ... and I'll report back in due course.
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9241 posts 12/1/2008 8:54 pm |
sure, go for coffee - you'll get a feel for if you want to see him again, and... it's easy to get away if it doesn't feel right
waggypolly replies on 12/1/2008 9:14 pm:
Yes right. But I'm disconcerted by the number of times I've had to tell him I don't want a pick up, that I'd prefer to meet him in a cafe.
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2900 posts 12/14/2008 12:15 pm |
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Wishing you a
Happy, happy Christmas,
Filled with memories of
treasured christmases;
May you be united with friends
and family this year,
May christmas bring the love
you deserve in the new year.
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loves and hugs
Happy Christmas
35 are moving on to round 4~
waggypolly replies on 12/21/2008 7:50 pm:
Stunning card. You have a good one too. 
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6256 posts 12/21/2008 5:35 pm |
I'm not sure if we talked about this fella or not. When I read his notes I somehow got the feeling you were having two different conversations. But then so do we from time to time in IM land.
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11/26/2008 3:57 pm
