2ofusfor3 53M/48F
245 posts
5/23/2005 8:13 am

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I'm having trouble with the initial transition between talking about it, and doing it. We want a lady to have fun with us. So what if the lady appears to not be freaked out after you tell her about your open relationship and funky lifestyle... and what do those terms really mean? What do you say to her then? Is it possible to just come out and ask, "Want to get down and funky with us?" What I find most difficult in this lifestyle is the lack of intimacy. I don't mean love, but just that tenderness you're not going to give to someone who is just a fuck. Or do you? I wouldn't mind if a lady gives pleasure to my man, but I'm not so sure about the other way around. Is that something that most couples face? Do things become normal eventually... like porno's have to me? We have such cool fantasies but are terrified of losing what we have. It is almost not worth the risk.

I remember when I was about 21 working as a cocktail waitress....... There was this really sexy lady who had the attention of all the bartenders. I came up to the bar and she said to me, "I think you're beautiful." I said, "Thanks, you're beautiful too." She said, "No, I really think you are beautiful." I thought that strange and also the way the bartenders were on the floor rolling with laughter. I find out a few minutes later after she walks away that they know her to be a lesbian... she had been interested in me. It was an awesome feeling, yet at the same time, perverse. I know I wasn't mature enough to handle the idea of being with a woman back then, but I'm very open minded now and don't expect most other woman to be as perverse as I am.

I really need to know if moving forward might put our relationship at risk.

artistforexploit 60M

5/24/2005 1:39 am

2ofusfor3: I don't know your situation, but maybe you should try being with a woman by yourself first, if that is your fantasy, then you'll have to decide from there what to do, you know your partner better than anyone else, so act accordingly. Best of luck.

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
5/24/2005 8:37 am

It absolutely can cause a problem. The BOTH of you have to have no doubt that this is something you want to do. If you go through with it you can't take it back, and if it causes a problem it will always be there. So be sure of your relationship and be sure it's something you both want, and if everything is ok then do it! And don't feel inhibited when your with a woman. Let yourself go and be free to enjoy the pleasure that will come! Good luck!!!


5/24/2005 10:39 am

dilemma.. As i have with my heart and mind. Although our desires control our lives, i never been in a homosexuality and never will be. This is me. Your situation is different. So i cant understand maybe. But in such a situation i simply say "i beg your pardon" to my desires to give it another chance. Then my heart gives the answer i follow.. So listen to your heart.

2ofusfor3 53M/48F

5/24/2005 3:41 pm

my heart and mind often stick together. I have an open mind thankfully. My desires are of a huge variety... seems nothing is out of the question. But when you add someone else's heart and mind and desires.... especially how they relate to you... things are not the same. We talk a great deal about our desires and what is ok and what is not. We agree a woman would add so much to the overall picture. We just are having trouble in getting our feet wet. Shoot, we have a willing friend... that was suppose to be the hard part.... but now faced with the reality of it actually happening, we are thinking, "Dry feet aren't so bad." We'll kick ourselves pretty hard for letting the opportunity pass us by. If it will happen it will have to be in the next couple of weeks. Keep your eyes out for that post.

artistforexploit 60M

5/24/2005 4:31 pm

Good luck & hopefully all will work for the best, my thoughts go out to you...

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