Friends with Benefits = Booty Call?  

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6/23/2006 1:08 pm

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6/23/2006 1:39 pm

Friends with Benefits = Booty Call?


Since when did the working definition of friends with benefits turn into an open invitation for a booty call? I am not complaining in that I have friends who are calling me just to fuck. It is the perception I am working against here in AdultFriendFinder. If I say I want a friendship with a woman, and that friendship will be intimate and sexual and consensual, then to me that means friends with benefits. That means I want to have a female friend to TALK to, GO to the movies with, DO fun, non-sexual things with. I get the impression that if I ask for that, some women's interpretation of it is I want a female friend to TALK dirty with, GO to the movies to get a blow job, DO fun, non-sexual things with that will lead to SEX!

Sigh...

Maybe it is the nature of AdultFriendFinder. It is, after all, a sex-oriented personal site. Maybe it is the 95 other morons who have preceded me who have espoused the desire for friendship; only to define the friendship by number of orgasms he or she achieved. Either way, it is not how I want a relationship with someone. Maybe it is how I'm wired, but the best sex I've ever had was with someone I had an intimate connection with. Don't get me wrong... there is an excitement to hooking up with a total stranger and fucking each other's brains out. But the most exciting play I've had was with women I cared about as friends. To see your friend in the throes of ecstasy will bring a mind-blowing orgasm! But to get there, they have to be your friend!

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