2daycowboywanted 45F
866 posts
6/15/2006 2:08 pm

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6/16/2006 6:30 am


In a little while I will be going on vacation. I am wondering if I should contact a previous boyfriend/ex and seeing how he is doing. He is married (last I heard which was about 2 years ago) and has two children. Theh last time I saw him he was about 7 years ago. I dont think things went to well given the fact that his wife really didnt appreciate him watching me - but rest assured I did nothing wrong. Only chatted with the both of them. Quite akward now that I think about it.

I know that he had feelings for me in the past. Things may of turned out different had I not been so hard headed in my younger years, but now that I am older I look back and see some of the mistakes I have made and I am not ashamed to admit I have some.

I dont want to cause friction of any kind. I just have been dreaming of this guy for weeks now and for no reason the dreams have turned sexual. Trust me - I was young when I met him -and both of us really knew nothing of what a sexual relationship was all about, but we did have one for a brief summer. I am sure that his wife knows this - but then again, I have never asked her nor do I plan on asking her - lol.

I cant seem to decide what to do. Should I send him a brief but short letter in the mail letting him know that I am coming? Should I call him and let him know I am coming? Should I just forget all about it? Should I call him when I arrive and see if they want to meet? Or am I just being plain stuiped and should just forget it?? I really need some advise!

Until tomorrow... XOXO

NaughtyMplsMan 45M

6/15/2006 2:34 pm

That is a tough one!! Is his marriage happy? Is he happy? I know if the answer to those questions is no that it still doesn't make it right. This is harder than it should be for me to answer, as I am a married man on this site. I'd start by asking him if he's happy with his marriage (maybe a little more indirectly than that) and start there. If he is, I'd just let it go and if he isn't, then you have more thinking to do.

roper_6969 55M

6/15/2006 5:41 pm

Damn, that's a tuffy. But, I have to agree with NaughtyMplsMan. What condition is his marriage in? Does he love his wife, and does she love him? Are children involved? Are you looking for a future with this guy, or a nooner? I mean, some people can seperate sex and love. Others can't. Where is he emotionally? Where are you emotionally? Man, there are so many things to consider. Sorry, I know I'm not being helpful.


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