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I woke up this morning and felt compelled to write a blog about optimism and whimsy. This doesn't go out to any one person--it is simply general observations of a 37-year-old life. However, just stay with me peeps, this may be life-altering! All of my recalled life, I have been referred to as "bubbly," "fun" "full of life," and my personal favorite, "a ray of sunshine." I am often told I am not expected upon first meeting to be as intelligent as I am. It is only after talking with me longer or taking time to really get to know me and my many facets that I am packaged deceptively as a myriad of depths. The first few times I heard that, I was taken aback, a bit insulted. I never thought I came off as a shallow air-head! Sure, I gots the D cups, da full lips and the flowing mane thang going on but so?? I was pretty sure that the syllabic content generated from those luscious lips o' mine were the REAL selling point to my charm! And you know, indeed it was! I am a brainy bitch, no doubt, but you know what I realized I possess? Happiness. And yes, it IS as simplistic and topical as it sounds. I mean, I feel joy in my life. Not that I don't have moments of darkness, I freely admit that. But I see my life and the lives as those I love as sprinkled with fairy dust! I DO suffer at times, but I do so less and recover quickly. Optimism may be a personality trait, but I believe it is a cognitive habit that can be learned as well. I am not writing this to bolster myself, but rather inspire others towards a sunnier outlook towards life. I personally do not doubt for a minute that our souls reincarnate and evolve. To say we have one shot at life seems rather fatalistic to me. But let's say we DO have one shot--why waste it with pessimistic behavior? And if we do evolve past who we were in this life, why not pass on a less damaged soul to the next? This may seem too etheral and silly for some, but this is where my fairy dust comes in! Magical thinking!!! People who have nary a trace of this are so dead set on being accurate and having proof for everything, that they cannot live in the moment--or refuse to conceive of the "what ifs." How can you be happy if you are always looking for the concrete? Dopamine in a brain like that must just be trickling in. On the other hand, you don't want to be flooded with that neurotransmitter or y'all would be schizophrenic! I am good with just the "psychosis lite." So when you see me laugh heartily, embrace mightily, sing or dance to funky songs, talk about the love of my princess, squeal loudly when I see pink, polka dots or the one I love step through the door, know that I am happy. I wish you the same. "When you wish upon a star, makes no difference who you are....." |
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 5/15/2008 7:51 am |
"Optimism may be a personality trait, but I believe it is a cognitive habit that can be learned as well. " . It is certainly a cognitive habit that can be learned. Super post.
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 5/15/2008 9:15 am |
I'm not one to judge a book by its cover. I have been stereo typed as you were when I first joined this site. But I guess I sort of asked for it by what I had put in my profile. I was told that I came across as a player and was only in it for the pleasure. And that really hurt deep down because it could have not been further from the truth. I have emailed you a few times and I never thought of you as what most would call a bimbo or dumb blonde. Actually the first time we spoke was in the chat room and I could tell then that you had a lot more going for you, and that behind that gorgeous face of yours was a woman with a brain and a great personality. Oh and vent any time you feel like it,your allowed and if people don't like who cares,life is to short. Great post
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5/15/2008 10:34 am |
You are soooooo right...most people do not realize that they make a choice to be happy or otherwise. It can be life changing just to change your mental frame of mind. To many people walk around being miserable...blaming everyone and everyone else for their misery..except themselves so do something adjust you point of view get happy...want more wish for things and then go out and make it happen....if it does not the first time try again but above all stay positive stay happy and enjoy the ride of life and all that it has to offer ...........in a zen mood today....hugs and kisses baby miss you. Damian
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5/15/2008 2:45 pm |
"Optimism may be a personality trait, but I believe it is a cognitive habit that can be learned as well. " . It is certainly a cognitive habit that can be learned. Super post. 
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5/15/2008 2:46 pm |
I'm not one to judge a book by its cover. I have been stereo typed as you were when I first joined this site. But I guess I sort of asked for it by what I had put in my profile. I was told that I came across as a player and was only in it for the pleasure. And that really hurt deep down because it could have not been further from the truth. I have emailed you a few times and I never thought of you as what most would call a bimbo or dumb blonde. Actually the first time we spoke was in the chat room and I could tell then that you had a lot more going for you, and that behind that gorgeous face of yours was a woman with a brain and a great personality. Oh and vent any time you feel like it,your allowed and if people don't like who cares,life is to short. Great post 
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5/15/2008 2:49 pm |
You are soooooo right...most people do not realize that they make a choice to be happy or otherwise. It can be life changing just to change your mental frame of mind. To many people walk around being miserable...blaming everyone and everyone else for their misery..except themselves so do something adjust you point of view get happy...want more wish for things and then go out and make it happen....if it does not the first time try again but above all stay positive stay happy and enjoy the ride of life and all that it has to offer ...........in a zen mood today....hugs and kisses baby miss you. Damian 
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5/16/2008 4:25 am |
Hey there Beautiful. It is a shame that people see the outer beauty and immediately perceive brainless bimbo. Unfortunately, that stereotype is perpetuated by many of our movie stars and of course by the media. Ironically, i am a very upbeat, optimistic person. My blog probably suggests the opposite. It is, however, the place where i vent and that venting leaves me being optomistic. My friend SexyMermaid has told me to greet each day with a smile and an i can. I do that. Like you, most people see me as a Ray of Sunshine. I have even been called Mr. Smiley. Wonderful post! Cheers, Prof
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5/16/2008 5:59 am |
Speaking of pink,I was at the gas station filling up my gas hog of a truck and low and behold. I see this woman who is filling up her motor cycle a Harley and it is pink,I mean all pink,the fenders the spokes the rim the gas tank,you name it it was pink. So I could not help but to think of you and had to add this comment. Muahhhhhhhhhhhhh sweety,And I'm a man who is not afraid to wear a pink but tastful pink shirt with the right combination, it can look really sharp on a man if properly coordinated.
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5/16/2008 7:02 am |
Speaking of pink,I was at the gas station filling up my gas hog of a truck and low and behold. I see this woman who is filling up her motor cycle a Harley and it is pink,I mean all pink,the fenders the spokes the rim the gas tank,you name it it was pink. So I could not help but to think of you and had to add this comment. Muahhhhhhhhhhhhh sweety,And I'm a man who is not afraid to wear a pink but tastful pink shirt with the right combination, it can look really sharp on a man if properly coordinated.
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5/17/2008 4:08 pm |
Hey there Beautiful. It is a shame that people see the outer beauty and immediately perceive brainless bimbo. Unfortunately, that stereotype is perpetuated by many of our movie stars and of course by the media. Ironically, i am a very upbeat, optimistic person. My blog probably suggests the opposite. It is, however, the place where i vent and that venting leaves me being optomistic. My friend SexyMermaid has told me to greet each day with a smile and an i can. I do that. Like you, most people see me as a Ray of Sunshine. I have even been called Mr. Smiley. Wonderful post! Cheers, Prof
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5/17/2008 6:12 pm |
Its nice to see a positive outlook on life in a world full of expectations of its others' responsibility to support me, provide for me, make me happy. Only you control your own life and its outcomes, how you feel, what you do. I wish more people would grasp that concept...novel idea, eh? I personally couldn't be happier with my life, who I am, what I do, etc. Life is as simple as you make it
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5/18/2008 6:47 pm |
Its nice to see a positive outlook on life in a world full of expectations of its others' responsibility to support me, provide for me, make me happy. Only you control your own life and its outcomes, how you feel, what you do. I wish more people would grasp that concept...novel idea, eh? I personally couldn't be happier with my life, who I am, what I do, etc. Life is as simple as you make it You are absolutely right.. only YOU control your own life and what it may bring. As they say... If life hands you lemons...ask for a shot of tequila! 
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5/20/2008 1:26 pm |
Hey - stumbled upon your blog and while I consider myself an optimistic person by nature - it's always good to get an extra dose from an outside source...Sorry you've got to deal with the lot and their pre-conceived notions - but I suspect you've long learned how to deal with them (...flush/ignore/flame)...Hey pass the tequila! The friendships of the world are often confederacies in vice, or leagues of pleasures. Joseph Addison
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5/21/2008 7:54 am |
Thank you for making me think differently, great post Syn.
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