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Sunrise, Sunset  

keithcancook 67M
7784 posts
6/7/2006 3:28 pm
Sunrise, Sunset






Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly flow the days
Seedlings turn overnight to sunflowers
Blossoming even as we gaze.

And now another one is going.

In 1992 I had a wife and three living with me. In 1996 I had three , but no wife living with me. In 2003 my middle , all of 14 coerced me into letting her move 500 miles to the north to live with her mom. My and youngest stayed in Carolina with me. In 2005 my 19 yr. old moved out of state and lives on his own 600 miles to the south. Now in 2006 my youngest wishes to join her sister and move in with her mom. I acquiesced, and now another one is going. Do broken families have broken hearts? I dunno, but I feel an overwhelming sadness sometimes.

Is this the little girl I carried?
Is this the little boy at play?

I don't remember growing older
When did they?

When did she get to be a beauty?
When did he get to be so tall?

Wasn't it yesterday
When they were small?

Sunrise, sunset
Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly fly the years
One season following another
Laden with happiness and tears...
*


God bless my . Oh! How dearly I love them!

* Poetry from Fiddler On The Roof.

TTigerAtty 69M

6/7/2006 3:51 pm

I understand the feeling, Keith. My daughter was only 9 when when I was divorced. Not being able to see her every morning and every evening almost killed me. You will survive and your kids will always love you.


GoddessOfTheDawn 112F
11240 posts
6/7/2006 3:52 pm


and you must have taught them well to conquer all that's out there....

~hugz~ for the heart that's hurting....


rm_1hotwahine 70F
21089 posts
6/7/2006 3:58 pm

Here's the thing...
Other than the divorced aspect, this is not a broken family. It's just one that's growing up. Like they all do.

But oh, the poignancy of it, yeah? sigh...

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


LustyTaurus 55M
21250 posts
6/7/2006 5:20 pm

My boys are 13 and 8 now...and I feel the same way already...can't imagine in a few years when the first one moves out.


frangipanigal 52F
10404 posts
6/7/2006 7:06 pm

Gorgeous Keith,

The love you have for them and they for you doesn't change, just the miles betwen you. Stay strong, let them go and grow and become the adults you have showed them to be.

Big hug for you,

Frangi xx


papyrina 58F
21123 posts
6/8/2006 4:44 am

awww hugs hun as you know my dad got custody of all four of us i was the only one who never lived with my mom when the other three seem to go ,back and forth months at a time,all came back to dad eventually,we all left home to start our own lives one at a time me first and the third daughter last,as dad couldn't expres his feelings like you,he collasped with a susupected brain (cannot spell the next word) stroke lol after every test known to man they found it was a migraine brought on my the stress of the last baby leaving the next.So your not alone with these powerful feelings of love.

We chicks all need to fly and find our way but we always know were the nest is and its a warm place full of love for us to keep on coming back


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


rm_DaphneR 65F
8019 posts
6/8/2006 10:24 am

Those kids know that you will always be there for them even if they live hundreds of miles away.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


ArtisticTwist75 48F
2505 posts
6/8/2006 11:32 am

The wings you have given them take them away, but they also bring them home. It appears with the love you have for them, they won't be gone for good... but for a season. And yet, the difficulty for you could be heartbreaking. I hope that your sadness lingers only a short while. This is the first time I've been to your blog. It was a beautiful trip. Thank you.

Artistic


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
6/8/2006 3:49 pm

Thank you PK. It helps girlfriend...

Yes, thank you for saying that TTA, my friend. Not only will they always love me, but they will be able to express it as well.

Hello, oh Goddess! It's nice to see you here in The Venting Blog again. I'm certain that I could have done a better job of teaching them, but it will have to suffice for now.

Yes, thank you for pointing that out wahinie sweetie. It's just another part of the process, but I was so looking forward to being a part of their high school years, and now I'm just gonna be a far away daddy who can't help much with the daily stuff. Jeeze. Now I feel like I'm whining...

Agreed, Erotica. I hope you will continue to visit. I really should not be moaning. This post is an aberration and it is unseemly for The Venting Blog to host a pity party.

I find much solace in moongazing, my fair asianlady4love. It brings you closer to me.

Yes CHIEF. A new life phase is beginning for all of us. I will ALWAYS love you bunches Marylin.

Good luck with it LT. We must all go through it sooner or later.

Aw, thank you so much for those warm words, frangi sweetie. I feel better already!

Hullo there MtnHikr! I used much of the same logic that you expressed. Much, but not all...

Yes, thank you playrigal. I'm reminiscing right now...

Hello Cats! They're good tears mostly. The ones that well up at times like this. Thank you so much for your support and kindness.

Who else am I? Wow honni! There is much to consider in those four little words. Too much to have the time to mope about anything. I shall reinvent myself. Stay tuned...

That is a good point, FreeLove! They are confident. I will see them 4x annually. My middle daughter graduates next year and she says she's coming back to Carolina to start a business. Wouldn't that be marvelous?

Hi papy! Yes, I have followed your story. Thank you for your kind words. You are very precious to me, don't ya know?

Thanks Daph. It is true.

I love the wing analogy, ArtisticTwist. Thank you for that. Also... Welcome to The Venting Blog! You caught it at an awkward time I think. There is more of lunacy than beauty here if you ever read further.

keithcancook has a difficult time staying blue for long, MOfun my sweet! It musta been the wine. I had a coupla glasses before I wrote this pitiful post. I'm back to my usual positive self already! Besides, my middle daughter just got in from Md. this morning. She looks marvelous!

Blog On!


rm_BigDnLady 50M/48F
1139 posts
6/8/2006 10:06 pm

Dammit keith, came by for a funny story to leave a funny comment on, instead I have nothing to leave but a tear. You are a very giving, and understanding father. You have allowed your children to grow, and make decisions, even though they may be painful ones. This further illustrates what a great dad you are! Your children are very lucky to have such a wonderful man for a "dad"!!!

Kisses

Lady


JuicyBBW1001 62F

6/9/2006 7:09 am

awww Keith it will be fine. One day your kids will make you proud. And hey thanks for stoppin in the other day it was nice to see you again.

Juicy


interested13563 60M
2557 posts
6/9/2006 3:03 pm

Of course they are the same children.
And you should be proud of having brought
them up to this level of independence.
It is sad when they are away. But it
is also happy since the course of
nature is fullfilled. I live half
the world away from my parents who
- I know - miss me. But they also
know it was the best thing to do.


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
6/9/2006 6:22 pm

Thanks Salz. I do appreciate what you have said here. (and the hug was real sweet too!)

I think that will be the next step for me, nikki. Thank you for stopping in to tell me that. The blues don't sit well with me, and they almost always pass quickly.

Aw, that is the sweetest thing anyone has said to me all day, Lady. Thanks, sweetie!
I will try and come up with something amusing for you real soon. I think I may be ready to try writing again this weekend.

Oh thank you so much, candysoveryverysweet! That was so veryverybeautiful, and I will cherish your comment forever.

It's all good, Juicy! One good turn deserves another, as they say! I am counting on your prediction coming true.

Yes, I always cope well, happyladychat! I am an excellent adapter to the environments I find myself in. I suppose there are a few benefits that will be coming with them going. (did that make sense?)

Thanks dz, my very good friend! I'm sure that I will find something to focus on. However, since I just lost my reading glasses yesterday everything is a bit blurry and out of focus...

Ah, that is an interesting perspective, interested my friend. I do believe I may have a post in it. You have got me to thinking... (oh, oh)


rm_jayR63 66F
1884 posts
6/9/2006 8:27 pm

Went for another good bike ride.
Overestimated my oxygen carrying capacity but only just a bit.
Just couldn't quite pull that one hill, couldn't get unclipped and had to lay her down.
You should see the bruise on my ass.

-Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round-
GET ON YOUR BIKES AND RIDE!!!!!


absolutelynormal 63F
6558 posts
6/9/2006 10:14 pm

Keith, mine were 16 and 18 when we got a divorce. The 18 year old hit the rod to FL that was 7 years ago. My daughter just graduated from college. Even though they've both been out of the house for years, they've been in and out at times. I've still been able to mommy them some. My daughter is here now not really allowing me to mommy her but I am like you a fish out of water. I don't know what to do with myself. But it's as it should be. They grow up and they move on and I am sure our parents felt the ssame.


Whispersoftly5 59F
15173 posts
6/10/2006 3:38 pm

(((HUGS))) I have so much respect for parents and the sacrifices they make. You are a wonderful, loving and caring father. You children - regardless of age or where they are living will always know you love them. (((HUGS)))

Whisper...


HBowt2 66F

6/11/2006 4:13 am

My dad used to sing this song and I always felt as though he was singing it for me....he's gone now but still with me if you know what i mean...Don't you worry Keith...you gave them a good foundation....they love you...and will always be a part of you....hugs for you ...take care...HB2xx


MaggiesWishes 67F

6/11/2006 10:35 pm

Sweet sweet Keith ... my "warm huggies" come on the wind to surround you.
The hardest thing I ever did, was watch mine walk out the door. The most loving thing my daughter said to me was ... "Mom, you loved me enough to let me go, and I didn't turn out so bad." She actually makes me look good.

Dang it ... this wasn't in the parenting book 101, they slipped us a zinzer on this one. *kicks sand*

We are here for ya.


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
6/12/2006 5:46 am

Ride on up South Mountain and I'll meet you on the western side in a coupla weeks, JayR. I think I will pay a little visit to Sharpesburg on my way to Penna. And maybe the next post will inspire you better than the last two?

Thank you, absolutelynormal. The cycle of life continues...

I dunno, candysoveryverysweet. I don't turn on my chat thingie that often. When I do, you are never there.

Aw, dry your tears my little wildflower. It's all good.

Parents do make sacrifices, Whisper. But they don't seem like it so much at the time. Thank you for your kind words.

Thanks, HBowt2! I only worry on odd numbered days and then for only a moment.

Yes, I know what you mean, maggie. Mine have been a pretty good reflection on me for the most part too! And yes, BlogLanders have shown they care about their own. Thanks to everyone of y'all!


rm_mm0206 76F
7758 posts
6/13/2006 8:37 am

Our children are precious and we should always cherish them

They have a wonderful father and one day soon they will come to see that you are their rock.
You have lots of wonderful memories to carry you through...
Smile and remember them.

tender hugs...
...m.


deliciousngood 71F
1666 posts
6/14/2006 9:57 am

Good Friend Keith:

Sooner or later they all grow up and leaves us to have their lives. Yours chose sooner...sad for you, surely a learning experience for them.

Bless you, sweety and no regrets...only happiness, love and adventures ahead!

Alice


MaggiesWishes 67F

6/15/2006 8:50 am

I MISS YOU!
and that's all I have to say about that.
warm huggies 2ya


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
6/15/2006 7:10 pm

Aw, thank you mm. They love me very much indeed, although the memories seem to have a bittersweet feel to em. I guess I'm still a bit flustered with this latest leaving.

"Sooner or later they all grow up and leave us to have their lives."

I know it well, delicious Alice. It's the cycle of life. Hey! Ya wanna come over n watch The Lion King with me? We can smootch some more...

Hey Maggie! You sure are pretty...

Thanks MO. I am quite fond of you too, sweetie. BlogLand is a blessing for us all.

If I am making sense, then something is wrong, happylady. Also, it's more like Wise Guy than Wise One I fear.
As for the relaxing mixed in with adventure.... yes ma'am!


TabithaElectra79 45F

6/16/2006 2:35 am

Awwww everyone has said such lovely things, it is a beautiful post, but kind of sad too...


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
6/17/2006 7:18 am

Those lines are very nice, funsassy. Thank you for them. Oh, and welcome to The Venting Blog!

Yeah, it's a bit bittersweet TabithaE and the post did generate great comments revealing how wonderful the folk of BlogLand be...

Hello ready! Welcome to The Venting Blog! Thank you for your kind words.

Well candysoveryveryinvisible, I always have my light on so folks can see me. If you're there how come you don't page me when I come on? Oh well, blog on!


rm_shy_girl364 54F

6/17/2006 7:46 pm

I am 36 years old and I still need my daddy. They will never leave you, not really. Be there, be ready.


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
59F

6/18/2006 2:09 am

aww sweets..
they never venture far from your heart


TTFN


tillerbabe 63F

6/19/2006 12:23 am

{bg bgcolor=FFFF66][color000099]Happy Father's Day Keith! Blog on sweet man! Secret: My Dad could never be replaced -he's gone now, but still guiding me. YOU Will always be their "Daddy"...no matter how far they travel or how tall they grow... [/bg]


bulging_boy 56M

6/19/2006 4:46 am

You got me with that one Keith,

Nothing is more important to me than my family, something that I've really only recently become aware of.

My children and the new love of my life matter more to me than anything, and I've been making a more concerted effort to be there for them when it matters, and give them memories that will last us all for years to come.

I want to look back and remember doing things with them, because I like you... love my kids completely.


rm_atta_girl 52F
219 posts
6/19/2006 8:37 pm

wow, we wonder about our parenting. somehow reading this made me sad, but i think in the good way. they do grow and change fast.

ATTA


rm_goddess1946 113F
13513 posts
6/20/2006 2:12 pm

They grow up so fast..like a blink of the eye...
Hope that you had a wonderful father's day, Keith...
you certainly deserve it...


Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
6/20/2006 4:40 pm

Those are awesome words you speak, Naked_Tuesday. And I thank you for them. Aw shucks, I was just fine and now I'm welling up. No, check that. I started laughing instead... (there is joy in my heart) PS: Welcome to BlogLand!

Thank you for sharing that, shy_girl. I want to tell you that it helps. And it is true. The bonds of kinship hold forever in families reared in love.

No, they don't. I could say the same of you as well, Oh Red-Lipped One. How else could I feel about my old blogging friend?

Your words are true, tiller sweetie. Thank you for adding another good point to the post. I have been very gratified and uplifted by the comments the wonderful folk of BlogLand have offered here. They ring true for so many of us.

Yeah, the sentiment of this post has registered with many, bulging, ol boy! There is joy in the sadness. Much in life is bittersweet, but the generations move on. It is hope for the future that drives our species, not wallowing in the past.

Thank you, Addy. Welcome to The Venting Blog.

Lots of folks have noted the bittersweet nature of this post, atta_girl. In the end it is all good. The torch must be passed...

Um, speaking of torch passing and new generations and all, I'd like to welcome atta and Addy to the Land of Blogz. It appears they are sorta new around here. Blog on girls, blog on...

I can only agree with you goddess. Now that I have experienced it I am that much wiser in the ways of this world. And thank you for the good wishes...


rm_EE407 48F
3903 posts
6/21/2006 1:52 am

Oh hun, I'm sorry to read all that... but I do believe you are very strong to let them go...

You know what they say... If you truly love something... if it loves you it will return

Hugs my friend, E.


redswallow777 55M
6809 posts
6/22/2006 5:44 am

You have made me a bit jealous, Keith, that I will never know that bittersweet feeling of letting go one's children.....and then you use a favorite musical to highlight it. I will, no doubt, be singing it all day now.

I have always been moved by the main image of the play.....me thinks you are the fiddler on the roof. A very nice tribute.


angelofmercy5 66F
17879 posts
6/23/2006 9:58 am

Keith...my heart broke for you reading this. I know it is not for a lack of love for you or you for them. The hardest thing to do is let your children go. The song Sunrise, Sunset has special meaning to me....and my husband sang it at our daughter's wedding.


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
6/23/2006 6:47 pm

Hi there, double E! Time will tell, but I have no fear of them not wanting to see their dad. They will return for visits.

Ahh, you have me chuckling here sweetSinn! Thank you for contributing to this post. And a sincere welcome to The Venting Blog. I will try and lighten things up the next time around...

Strange as it may seem redswallow, I have yet to see either the play or the screen version of Fiddler On The Roof. I am of course familiar with the image on the playbill.

I downloaded the music last winter on a whim. I was going through some weird period where I suddenly had urges to listen to American showtunes and musicals. Sunrise, Sunset really resonated with me. I have almost rented the movie 2x in the past month, but I guess I'm still waiting for the right rainy afternoon... Blog On!

Ah, I love the sound of a light rain, sharks my old friend. It is very fine...

That is the way of it sometimes, Kaliedascope. Welcome to The Venting Blog.

Aw, thank you for commisserating angelofmercy. It is good to hear from folks of the "empty nest" persuasion. (is that what this is called?) Your daughter has a wonderful daddy I see.

The poetry in Sunrise, Sunset captured an essence for me. I didn't just read the words. I felt them.


imLadyBambi 65M/57F

6/24/2006 10:04 am

Keith,


That was so touching.

You don't find to many men who express their feeling's out in the public.

Come visit our (Team Bambi's) blog site,you might just get a laugh or two out of it.If ya visit please leave a comment so I'll know that you were there.Thanks!!

Our link is:

imLadyBambi

Lady B.


DIVISION77 46M
8325 posts
6/24/2006 6:06 pm

These things happen in cycles.

They moved away, yes, but they'll be back again.

What matters is that your love for them remains the same.

That it is the one thing that never wavers, regardless of the distance.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


snatchy71 52F
3902 posts
6/24/2006 11:19 pm

today i see the very joy of it. heartache, but good. it is life


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
7/4/2006 6:40 pm

Ah, I understand sharks old friend.

Thanks for the hugs and your words of support, Robin. Good luck with those teenagers!

I used your link, Lady B. Thanks for leaving it here! As for the expression thing... well I had best practice what I preach, eh girlfriend?

Thanks for that, corezon sweetie.

Agreed, DIV. Thanx.

That it most certainly is, snatch. Kudos for understanding.

Certainly they need their mother, kittenkisses. If only as a living example of the difference between conditional and unconditional love.

No doubt, Purry. No doubt.

Aw, you are very sweet, Dys. Thank you...

Fiddler On The Roof was perfect for this one, synfuldlight. Thanks for stopping by The Venting Blog!


curiousinlorain7 66F

7/6/2006 5:50 pm

first of all, the sunrise sunset song is a running theme through my head when ever I see my kids grow and take steps to leaving. My son has pretty much 'flown' he has an apartment ( be it a college type one) fiance (whom I love) and a distance (small enough i still get to see them..far enough to make doing laundry here impractical) secondly...the thing that truly sucks is this...when our children move on, and are successful we have done our jobs...then we have that joy/sadness....thanks for your stop by on my blog great blog you have here i'll be back...


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
7/6/2006 7:48 pm

Life is indeed bittersweet, curiousinlorain. Usually I like to focus on the sweet part, but it is wise to acknowledge the bitter part too. We need to be whole, right?

Welcome to The Venting Blog! It is good to see you here!


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
7/9/2006 12:25 pm

Yeah, this one got to lots of folks, gwalker_oh. Thanks for commisserating, and welcome to The Venting Blog.

Blog On!


Sixthandpowell 55F

7/18/2006 10:41 pm

Aw, sorry things work out this way. It was nice that you had them while you did though huh? Many dads don't. It's sad.

-sixthandpowell - formerly missy97330


TnWitchyWoman 63F
6843 posts
4/24/2010 1:36 am

My "baby" leaves for college this summer. It's a bittersweet event to watch them grow up and go off. Like you, I know I did well...or the very best I could...in raising them and love them dearly. Strength to us both in these times so that we can cheer them onward while we really want to hang on tighter.


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
4/24/2010 8:15 am

Bittersweet is sorta what this post is about, my friend. All the best to your "baby".

blog on!


rm_jamesinstl 62M
6336 posts
4/24/2010 9:23 am

Keith, I was never so lucky to have my kids live with me after the divorce...it was always a visit. My ex would call me to complain about them and I would always say that if she couldn't handle it, let them come live with me...she never let that happen...control freak she was... My daughter went through a stage where she stayed with me for a full summer...that was awesome to have her around. My son now lives with me, but it's different than when they are growing up.

This post brought back a lot of memories...bitter / sweet...some not so easy to think about...but life is what it is and some of the memories were wonderful.

I do hope you can put the pain behind you soon... Take care my friend and try to have a relaxing and nice weekend.


keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
4/24/2010 9:58 am

My wife left me for a guy she met online. I had no idea she was doing that while I was working. She told me she was taking the kids and moving 500 miles away.

I said no way, leave if you wish, but the kids are staying. Unbelievably she left her own kids and was gone.

I was Mr. Mom for many years after that, but it's all over now. I even miss some of that stuff which seemed so trying at the time. You know, fixing boo boo's, meeting teachers, preparing all the meals, driving all over creation... Single parents, you all know what it is...

Anyway, here is a link to the first post of my blog. It is actually the namesake for my blog as well... In it I vented right much!

The Venting Poem

blog on!


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