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There's an old myth that when it comes to dating, nice guys finish last. Girls want bad boys. We want the ones who treat us badly. It's not so different from the perception that the girls with the biggest boobs and the most skin showing will get the guys. Just like men have women they marry and women they...date, so do women. Some men have a series of women, just for one night. While other men may go a while between women, but when they finally find someone, they have her for life. Time after time, I see it. Beautiful 20- and 30-something women who go through a little bit of a wild phase. They go clubbing, maybe date bar bouncers or men with full-body tattoos who ride Harleys. We all have known THAT girl. Her friends stand by watching while she makes mistake after mistake. She sleeps with someone too soon, then cries when he never calls again. She compulsively text-messages some guy who can't be bothered to respond. He's moved on to someone new. All she is in his life is a nuisance. No one can figure it out. Such a beautiful woman. Why is she wasting her time on a man who is ignoring her? Then one day it happens. She gets tired of being treated badly. She finds some self-esteem and decides to start saying 'no' when a guy tries to get her into bed too early. If she meets a man who doesn't call, she dismisses him and moves on. In the process, she FINALLY meets Mr. Right...and guess what? He's a nice guy. Yes, she finally figured it out. The thing is, we allow someone to treat us the way we feel, deep down, we deserve to be treated. So these girls who are passing over all the right guys for the wrong ones just simply are not ready yet. Hopefully they'll figure it out before it's too late. But then she'll encounter a new problem. Finding a nice guy. Yes, they are out there, but think about it. In the world of singles, the odds are fairly good she's going to encounter someone who is only out for sex. These men stay single, year after year, cruising bars for fresh meat. A couple of weeks ago I was on a girls' night out. One of the girls, a beautiful woman in her early-twenties, was obsessing all night because the man she'd been sleeping with had been ignoring her calls all day. She decided we were going to crash the bar where he worked as a bar bouncer. I couldn't wait to get a look at this mystery man. This guy she'd made SUCH a big deal over. This guy who was breaking this beautiful young girl's heart. He was frighteningly, disgustingly, skanky. Sure, there are good-looking, well-groomed bar bouncers but this guy wasn't one of them. Not only that, but he gave my young friend the cold shoulder all night. She was begging for the attention of a man who didn't even deserve to share space with her. I was perplexed. Within a year of that evening, she'd met, fallen in love with, and married a "nice guy." A very attractive man with a nice income who treats her well. Meanwhile, what do you think became of that bar bouncer? I'd lay odds he's still getting all the women. Still making "nice guys" wonder why they can't be more like him. And he'll be doing that next year and the next and the next and the next...until one day maybe he'll get tired of having one-night stands and will be ready for the real thing. And guess what? That's when he'll be ready to be a nice guy. woohoo |
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7/1/2008 8:52 pm |
how do u pick a nice guy from the bad guy cause i think i must be the in between guy
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6/27/2008 12:54 am |
thanks woohoo
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 6/26/2008 11:19 pm |
gotta say i love your shoe pic We are all part of a universal mind, I hope that there is more diversity in the mind.
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