1playfulgal 39F
7112 posts
6/16/2005 7:33 pm

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I have been with men that are awesome in bed...but they do not last as long as i'd like them to...Sometimes as short as 5 minutes...

Tell me...do you know of any ways to prolong the experiences...

I'm always looking to try new things...

babsygirl 55F

6/16/2005 8:35 pm

find a new sex partner.....it gets old.....

no seriously...it does..sorry guys.

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
6/16/2005 9:37 pm

slip him a mickie, LOL .. No seriously, I have dealt with quickies before, sometimes its just the man and he just may be a quick cummer. If that is the case you cant do anything to change it or make him last. I think it has to come from the man seeking the help to make himself want to last. You can try long kisses, finger play, (him to you). I always find that foreplay can be a lengthy fun process before actual penetration. The best thing I found that work once b4 is let him just barely put the head of his cock in give it a little squeeze with you muscles, then take the full length of it squeeze and he pulls out, then change positions. A man can't take much of that starting and stopping, but I guarantee you he wont cum too quick. Also you can use toys let him play with you with them, use a cock ring(vibrating one) on him while you give him oral. You can tell when hes about to explode, then back off. I have always said that sensuality starts in the mind. If you can take over the mind when aroused you can do amazing things to each others body.

If all else fails, slip him a blue pill.. LOL No seriously if a man cant last past five minutes you need to shop for new partners.

I hope this helps.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

arribaarriba69 51M

6/16/2005 9:42 pm

Like in baseball take a pinch runner

volcanoinu23 53M

6/16/2005 10:33 pm

First of all, take it as a compliment. I know that there is not much sexual solice in that, but that is where I have to start. I have spent 20 years trying to avoid that issue ever since a woman onc told me to go an masterbate to hep her out.

What might help if you take some verbal control. Tell him that you want him to last a while because you need to play. Let him know it's not an option...he has to be a man!

tooRespectful 37M
1 post
6/16/2005 11:36 pm

If you stick your finger in the taint (a.k.a grunge, gooch, or spot between the back of the scrodum and the anus) you can stop a man from ejactulating. My girlfriend used to do it to me when I was too eager it hurts a little but it is effective.

Saintdivadi 50M
12 posts
6/17/2005 2:25 am

I have found the taint spot to be very effective with a little practice. Much more cooperative than simply ditching him. Didnt you gals ever think that somethings about you get "old" too, still no real reason throw out the baby with the bath water.

ByteChaser2 53M

6/17/2005 6:05 am

OOOooo pain point... That's a tough one too.

Well if you have the time to spend waiting for round 2... and assuming the guy can recoup fairly quickly - get er done, quick, down and dirty. Then ply your considerable charms for a second go-around. Very effective if the guy has been "savin' up". Mutual masturbation works well here.

Condoms go a long way here too. Lack of sensation and all.

Might try this. At least it works for me... Choose positions that cause as little sensation as possible to the underside of his cock (oh crap.. "bad languages". Post police gonna deny this one). Thats the surest way to keep me from screamin "Thar She Blows!" inside of 2 minutes.

Some of those "prolong" creams and lubes actually work too. Use a bit of caution though... you might be in for a marathon session if he's just slathering the stuff on by the double handful... Anal-ease works pretty well. Down-side is it desensitizes you too.

Damn... I must sound like I can't hold a nut to save my own life

jimxxx1971 47M

6/17/2005 6:19 am

The foreplay suggestion is a good one. I use my fingers and mouth for a loooonggg time before there is any penetration. Once you guys are actually fucking, try changing positions a lot. Many guys can't just pump and pump and pump without cumming, it's just not possible. So as he feels himself getting to the point where he's close to cumming, have him pull out, cool down for 60 seconds or so and change positions. If you give him a few cooldown periods and he knows that you don't expect him to slam you hard for 30 minutes nonstop it will take some of the pressure off him. Sometimes that's all it takes. If he's not worried about cumming too fast that's a big step in the right direction. Just remember, change positions a lot and give him a few rest stops, even if he has to go back to using fingers and tongue while he simmers down and is ready for re-entry.

Good luck!

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/17/2005 8:44 am

Don't think i'll ditch him quite yet...some great suggestions here i think i'll try first...

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/17/2005 8:49 am

Saintdivadi true enough...you have a valid point there and maybe some of us are a little too quick to dismiss...i'm not giving up yet though...

jimxxx1971 thanx for the suggestion...i'llgive it a go...

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/17/2005 8:52 am

ByteChaser2 alhtough is does make you sound like the king of quickies i appreciate all the information you gave me...

If this man wasn't a fictitious compilation of a few men i have been with then i would have lots of things to try...now atleast i will be prepared if it happens again...

NaughtyBlk30 47M

6/17/2005 8:52 am

I totally agree with the helpful comments here. My only addition is to add some humor to it all. If he is a good lover and you care about him, then to me it's worth brining it up to him. Seems like there are some other options you may want to try other than dumping him. I tell ya, every one of us men can relate to the 'thar she blows!' fear (Byte's comment above). I am laughing my ass off as I read that. For me - humor goes a long way, and if I can learn something that will help get the woman off even more, I'm there. Oh, and p.s. I'm a big fan of the Kegel excercises!

Jerosd 47M

6/17/2005 3:55 pm

just get 2 or 3....they can take turns...lol

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/17/2005 4:36 pm

Jerosd thanks for the tip...you volunteering to be #2 or #3...

rm_notsoold65 51M

6/18/2005 1:01 am

I read an article in an old issue of penthouse, about an exersise the man can do that will help. Ive used it and it worked for me ,it sounds corny, and thats what the article said to ,but it has to do with tighting the spinkter mucsle and releasing it repetitively ,it can take some time to develope the strength to be efective,(and get over the idea of exerzizing your anus)I cant remember the name of the exerzize but it may of been mentioned above. oh yea and the lightbulb has to want to change!

hardcopy75 41M
47 posts
6/18/2005 1:29 am


Brandenburgh_Man 60M
2 posts
6/18/2005 3:17 am

The solution to the problem is so easy, I'm surprised all women don't already know this: Don't try to prolong the man's orgasm. Let him come as quick as he wants. But that doesn't mean he's "finished". Give him 10 minutes rest, then start sucking his dick. He'll get hard again and be ready for 2nds. I guarantee he'll last a lot longer the 2nd time.

rm_affbreak 46M
287 posts
6/18/2005 6:18 am

I'd go for the Brandenburgh_Man-approach. Spilling some cum doesn't neccessarily mean we are satisfied.

Even more: With exercise, at least some man can orgasm without ejaculation... which could be a goal because 'you don't loose pressure'.

P.S.: Dumping a man just because his body and mind does react to what he sees as a wonderful partner is quite harsh. Think about you being in a position where a man would tell you "You didn't came in half an hour? Get off, I'll dump you!".

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
6/18/2005 6:58 am

Men are medically proven to only average 3 to 5 minutes per each ejaculation m'lady.

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/18/2005 8:20 am

Mysticwriter88 sorry mystic i tend not to believe that unless i have only been with a couple of average men...the rest (if going by your standard) are so far above average, its ridiculous...

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/18/2005 8:22 am

notsoold65 that is very interesting...i'll have to see if i can find that article online...if i can i'll post it for everyone...

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/18/2005 8:24 am

Brandenburgh_Man i've actually heard about that before...but it doesn't stop us from being disappointed the first time having sex with a man...


6/19/2005 5:46 am

I have actually had the opposite complaint. Women who complain because theythink they are not good enough when I can last up to two hours of strait penetration without cumming. But its just that I love sex sooo much that I dont want to cum and have it end.

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/19/2005 7:27 am

LUVS2LICKU78 there seems to be quite a few men out there that can stop themselves from cumming for long periods of time...

Santacruz1962 54M

6/19/2005 8:42 am

Why stop when you cum? Keep your man moving after orgasm. It can be hard (pun intended), what with everything extra sensitive, slippery, spent and buzzing, but its worth it and, if he's young 'n' in good shape sexually, he'll cum again 10 to 30 minutes later. Wish I was still in my 20's.
I've also found that different women feel different inside. Some partners are so amazingly textured that delaying my orgasm is very difficult. Others are the complete opposite. State of arousal and time of month are also factors.
On a related matter, do you, or any other women, find that cum can make you over sensitive inside? 'Stingy' is how my partner describes the sensation before turfing me off.
P.S. Safe sex note I, both I and partner are HIV tested.
P.P.S. Safe sex note II, continued movement after climax whilst wearing a condom is not an option for a wise woman.

100toncaptain 69M

6/21/2005 7:46 am

Fortunately for me my first sex was on my 17th birthday with a much older woman (20+ years) and she taught me Tantric Massage of the Yoni and withing a short period of time, she considered me a Master of the Yoni. Understanding Tantric Massage can help both male/female into prolonging their sexual life!

When she was training me to hold my cum, she would reach around and gently squeeze my ball sack (above my balls) not squeezing my balls.
This would stop my premature cumming. Our affair lasted 20 years. I laarned to hold my cum and can keep a 7.5" erection for hours. Of course this is Not continious fucking, however it is continious sex. Going from oral/penetration(pussy/anal)/oral/toys/penetration and start all over again!

If any of you ladies live near Tampa and want to SEE for yourself then drop me a line, see my YIM in profile/email is the same, Your Captain Awaits

rm_luckyg26 38M

6/21/2005 9:40 pm

Hi there. Sorry to hear about your dilema. That has happened to me in the past. What changed me was a girlfriend who pretty much told me how it was going to be. After the first time, we talked during sex, changed positions, and just fucked. Hour, hour and a half, whatever; it wasn't done till she was done. Period. So, I would say, communication is key, there is nothing wrong with talking during sex... Good luck to you !

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