What do you think about...  

1playfulgal 39F
7112 posts
7/13/2005 3:32 pm

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What do you think about...

...the whole soulmate idea...

I don't think that it is nessesarily someone that you are destined to spend the rest of your life with...as a life partner...

It can be someone that when you first meet you feel an instant connection...Someone who even though you have just met...you feel like you have known them all your life...

We must all have one or more of them...possibly someone that we have known through time...in past lives...if you believe in that...

I have met one such person in my life...we met in grade seven...and although we live far away from each other and see each other very seldomly...whenever we see each other the time and distance melt away and we are the best of friends once again...we can spend hours chatting about nothing important...or life changing decisions...

Tell me about your soulmate(s) have you met him/her yet...

rm_raritan2 60M
13 posts
7/13/2005 8:18 pm

technally, a soul mate is the oppisite soul of you, you cannot go to
"heaven" without him/her, when your reincarnated. it's a eastern thing.

we meane it to be someone we really need. it's a romance thing. and i,ve got a couple i dream of often and hope they do me, long lost lovers. NOT EVERY LOVER IS A soul mate be careful! raritan2

TheDodger8 45M

7/13/2005 8:24 pm

Not yet. I really wish she would show up soon...because I am begining to think I may not have one....

impregnatormaste 47M

7/13/2005 9:01 pm

Yes, I agree. There is a certain level of stability that comes with a life partner though. It seems to me that the term "soul-mate" is useful to discribe that special connection. A person may have many soul mates in their life time. They are distinct from their life-partner, who ideally is also a soul mate. In the end, if you find a soul mate, cultivate that special relationship and have lots of sex

rm_1sweetsiren 48F

7/13/2005 9:55 pm

Yes, I have found my 'soul mate". While we only dated for 6 months twelve years ago, we are still now the best of friends. The last time I saw him, he was not feeling very upbeat about life in general. So what did I do? I climbed in bed right next to him (we were both fully dressed), and we listened ot some very relaxing music while we talked about the past, the present, and the futures we would each like to have. I laughed and joked with him and re-assured him that he was very special and when I left he was back to his old happy self again. We just have this magic connection that is so electric that other people say they can feel it when they are around us together. He would do the same for me and has on many occasions. We make eachother want to be better people and we each seem to bring out the best in the other. Our relationship actually transcends a sexual relationship, in my opinion. Although, if all the planets lined up just right and we were in bed together and things became intimate, I doubt we would throw eachother out of the bed...LOL

alice593 71M

7/13/2005 10:28 pm

Yes, I have had many soul mates which I enjoy being around a lot. I had been elected by a lot of them to head bowling leagues, a tenant association, and even wanted me to run for a councilman post. These were a few at first, but appreciated me trying to do what was right. I didn't always do what was right, but they knew I would try to. My special soul mates I married. The last two were very special. Yes, soul mates can be friends and people you know, but I feel the special soul mate is the one you live with. Whether it be a male and female relationship, a male and male relationship, or a female and female relationship.

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/13/2005 11:13 pm


Now that you have said that I do recall hearing that before...Not being religious i don't believe in that reasoning of it...


Be patient and she will come...wow that sound like field of dreams or what...

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/13/2005 11:17 pm


interesting handle you have there...I personally would not settle for a life partner who i did not have that connection with...


that sounds very much like an ex boyfriend of mine...we have only known each other for a couple of years...we dated for about six months...but i think we have a more valuable relationship now that we ever did as significan others...

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/13/2005 11:19 pm


Yes i agree with that totally...with me and my long time friend i felt we were soulmates right away...i know that there is another one out there that will fulfill other aspects in my life that my friend can not...

all the best...

flirtwithme85 31M

7/14/2005 5:14 am

well yes i found my soulmate in year 11 and we dated for a couple of weeks and it started to get so powerful so quick so we decided to back off and be friends till we were ready for it. so we have been being young and experiencing life without having to worry about hurting each other and just like you said we live away from each other and dont meet often but when we do that intensity is back, and really it is something else

spikeryder 49M

7/14/2005 5:50 am

I have met my soul mate..2 years ago..She and I feel we have known each other forever. It's amazing how we live parallel lives, what happens to one happens to the other.
We feel we have probably met before..maybe twins?..It's so hard to explain to others but we understand it perfectly. We have this deep, almost instictive, understanding of each other.

She is the most wonderful person in the world, i couldn't get through without her...we know people talk about us .."they must be lovers.." .."There's no way they are just friends"..etc. Because we are so tight, so close. We don't care.
I feel SO lucky to have met her and have a friend like her..We are not lovers and never will be..there are different kinds of love, they don't have to envolve a sexual relationship.

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/14/2005 8:38 am


You are right...sometimes they do...I feel extremely fortunate having met two such people in my lifetime...


sounds amazing...you are lucky to have found that...good luck to you...


Yes that is exactly what i was talking about with the past life thing...it is this knowledge that you have known each other so completley and fully through the ages...like you say hard to explain...but i know what you are talking about...

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/14/2005 10:45 pm


too sweet...once again you have brought a smile to my face...


rm_chagi_guy 48M
87 posts
7/15/2005 5:22 am

I hear ya on this one doll, some people you meet you just click and right away feel totally comfortable with and competely at ease. I am not sure if that is a soul mate and I am not sure about the entire having know each other in another life thing... but it does make you think about stuff like that... you know... hummmmm....
love to hook up with you some time and see if that click is there between us... lol... you never know...

rm_the_taker 44M
60 posts
7/15/2005 9:26 am

Soulmates? Interesting. I've read you meet only about 6,000 people in one's life. It seems like such a small number to find a person in, but would be great to be in a relationship with a soulmate. I consider one of my sisters to be a soulmate. Common thoughts, feelings, finishing each other's sentences, or not bothering to finish them (telepathy?). With a great guitar player friend of mine (male) it is the same way, though he chalked it up to "the Irish know the Irish." A female friend of mine is hilarious and when we have each other to spin off, it is a riot. She is married now. It was still a riot when we saw each other at a wedding recently! Years before, friends had pointed out we were both way too spontaneous to work. They said it would be better for both of us to find opposites to ground us, so we didn't both lose the car keys on the same day. Now I don't know which is better, a soulmate or a complement?

BigDaddynMomma 36M/36F
4 posts
7/15/2005 10:42 pm

I've met 2 of my soulmates. One of them is supposed to be my best friend but I always seem to hurt her (the same "mistake" everytime) we have the same personalitys we look a little the same and are always finishing each others sentences. I love her to death but sometimes she drives me absolutly nuts (maybe because she's me in another body) lol... My other soul mate is the man that I would like to spend the rest of my life with even though I met him only about 3 months ago. Since the first second that we met we had this instant connection (other than we were all over each other) we can talk to each other about things that we would never dream about telling anyone else and we can be totally ourselfs around each other. If I tell him how I'm thinking he not only will listen to what's up but almost always will agree with it. To tell you the truth it's kinda very scary

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/15/2005 11:17 pm


Interesting the beliefs that people have...the past lives thing has always been a belief that i have held...not sure what triggered it...


6000 people really doesn't seem like a lot to meet in a whole life time...sounds like you have met a couple of people who are soulmates...i think that that is exactly what soulmates are supposed to do...they complete you...make you feel whole...compliment you...

plums4u2003 64M

7/16/2005 4:25 am

I met a soulmate through a part time 5 year professional training course. The first time I thought she was spiky and didn't like men much.But I loved her sense of humour and her vitality. I then found she was very unhappy in her marriage and understood her attitude to men. We became very close friends and shared so much emotionally.
After 6 months we became lovers and - to be honest - it was 'wrong' but we both had so much love as well as desire for each other.It had to end for her to be able to tell her husband truthfully that it was him who was the problem not to go off woth another guy.
We never got back together as lovers in the following 15 years but were the closest of friends and people who first met always assumed we were lovers or brother and sister as we connected so well.
Sadly my soulmate has now died of a cancer but I nursed her through the last months of her life at home and gave her the love and care that no hospital however good can do.
She's still and always will be my soulmate and lives on in my heart.Finding a soulmate is a precious gift.Thank you for asking this question.xxx

1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/16/2005 8:49 am


What a touching story...that probably brought your souls closer together in the last days of her life...i'm glad that she is keeping alive in your heart and mind...perhaps you will meet again someday...

yagottalikit 49F
583 posts
7/18/2005 3:52 am

Having a soul-mate would require having a soul...or maybe just a little bit of "soul". I can sing a mean Etta James! tsk tsk
Seriously, I don't buy into the whole "soul-mate" concept. There are just too many people one connects with on too many different levels. For each and every "soul" we meet, there is a reason. The briefest encounter with one of them (think, 5 minutes?!) could be life-changing. Enough babble from me. Gonna sing, now.

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

rm_YGB_fran 33F
1434 posts
7/19/2005 7:30 pm

I firmly believe that we have soulmates and more than just one. I have a friend like you where we don't see each other often but when we do it's like we stepped back in time and I'm happy. There are no doubts as to whether they want the best for you and you will do anything to see them happy too. I recently had someone in my life and it was romantic but didn't work out. It wasn't very nice in the end but in my heart I only wish her the best and I know she feels the same for me. Regardless of what happens we're connected and that's comforting. I think you know immediately if a person is going to be special enough to be a soulmate.

YGB_fran muuaah muuaah

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