Stud or slut?  

1playfulgal 39F
7112 posts
7/1/2005 11:47 pm

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Stud or slut?


Why is it in modern times that when a man sleeps with multiple partners he is considered a stud but when a woman does the same thing she is issued the label slut...

Ofcourse that misconception is slowly vanishing as more people accept that a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality is not nessesarily a slut...

If one contiually sleeps with men without consideration for her body (ie unsafe sex) and also sleeps with numerous men that she has no attraction for then yes in some cases they could be called sluts...

In my case for example I have an ongoing relationship with 2 men...I am on the pill and i also require a condom for anykind of penetration and have regular tests...The fact that i have sexual relationships with 2 men that i care about within the same time frame...does not make me a slut in my own mind...

BTW they each know that there is another man...i do not hide that fact from them...

Thoughts on the subject?

freetime648 52F

7/2/2005 12:21 am

I believe a "slut" is a term used for women that do not seem to care. About the guy, the situation, if there is another female involved, or about themselves. And you 1playfulgal, do not fit that label at all. Men get the term stud because that is what it is for men. Their little minds are definitely different then ours. And I didn't mean that in a mean way. They just think and act differently is all. Women tend to be more discrete and tight-lipped about our sexual "conquests' and men brag for the purpose of one upping the other guy!! Big high fives all around.....yes, for the women too!!! They are allowed these days to be just as proud of their conquests!! Especially if it is handled in a mature manner!


xx FREETIME648 xx


shahofwichita 37M
19 posts
7/2/2005 1:02 am

good for you!


rm_dracco64 52M
34 posts
7/2/2005 1:03 am

For what its worth ... I would not consider your situation as slutty. Personally I don't like the word, I feel it is far too negative and degrading given the double standard that you already mentioned. Also the internet has brought sexual urges and instincts to an all new level and has educated the conservative minded people that men and women from all walks of life desire one thing.

I think it is wrong for a man or a woman to use sex as a tool for advancement ... under those circumstances the label of slut might be appropriate whether it be male or female.


Dott_Jones 47M

7/2/2005 1:39 am

Why? Because we come from a religious bounded culture where everything out of reproduction is not a sexual acceptable behaviour.
Many people simply don't care about building their own thinking: if the priest (or some other "leader") tell them you are a slut, well, you are a slut and they wuold not think about it anymore.
As far as I'm concerned everybody is free to have the sexual life he/she wants, just be onest with your partner(s) (and ask them the same).
Anyhow the most part of the people on ths planet don't tink so.
Do you remember trying to fire a U.S. president for a blow job?
I hope he enjoyed it, and think his sexual life has nothing to do with his capabilites as president, but again not everybody think so.
Have a nice day.


artistforexploit 60M

7/2/2005 1:57 am

I think the word slut is subjective sweetie, if you sleep with someone elses partner you may be called a slut, if you sleep with any guy that you like at anytime & do it often without any real consideration of doing it except for the need to have sex then you may be called a slut. It really is a state of mind. Ask yourself this question, if you were at a party, would you sleep with every guy just for the sex, without consideration, just for the heck of it? Then maybe you are what you fear, but I'm not getting that message here, so don't worry.


Man_Hard 50M

7/2/2005 1:58 am

I think that you are right and this perception of sexual activity is not too much true. However do not forget about the moral situation of society. In fact all we have done up to now in the name of building a reliable and sustainable society is based on monogamy. And I think that it is a good thing for many of the people. As I learned from woman that I fucked with, generally men and women do not have enough pleasure from sex and then try set a specail frozen place for it in their life. This in part hepls for the common society sustainability.
However, for people like you and me, I think that we have to continue our polygamy but in discretion in order to not disturb the others as they will not be comfotable if they understand that what they do is not sex but a simple introduction course.
Kisses..


waiting4u704 42M
1 post
7/2/2005 2:19 am

labels like "stud" and "slut" only serve to isolate, manipulate, and create artificial differences between people that are essentially the same. labels are tools of oppression.
how many ladies do you know would brag about being nailed by a guy that has nailed half the city already? "stud" is not always a compliment. technically it refers to a male animal who serves no other purpose than to provide sperm. sounds like a slave to me...


misterrite3 34M

7/2/2005 2:19 am

Hell, if they both know about it and don't have a problem with more power to you. I honostly don't see anything wrong with it. You are honost about it so therefore you're not hiding anything and you're not lying about it.


LoveEternal 31M

7/2/2005 2:46 am

Tradition.

In my group of friends mature women that are out there following their desires are considered to be godesses, the younger girls are for us are just plain annoying.


hottie9112000 31M
2 posts
7/2/2005 3:21 am

u are a hottie al the way my 12 inch dick would fit perfict in your pussy and my lips on your nippiles halla back


pussyworshippe2 50M
37 posts
7/2/2005 3:23 am

your men both know of the other and obviously accept this therefore you are not a slut.A slut to me would be one that fucks around on her partner without their knowledge, you are lucky that both men understand your need for the other.


spikeryder 49M

7/2/2005 3:35 am

hey darlin if you keep both guys informed about the other i see no problem, consenting adults can have fun without hurting or getting hurt.
If people hide behind the pretence of an exclusive relationship but are infact humping everyone in site the they can be called a "slut" and many other things too.
you are a young sexy, hot woman why not have fun with that ..more power to you.
just tell the rest of us all about it ...


kondenado86 30M
9 posts
7/2/2005 3:45 am

For this matter as for any other, a woman is as free as a man to do whatever she wants with her body. For some reason a man is usually seen as more "manly" if he has several female partners. Some years ago a woman was spected to be at home and be "good", but hey!, we are in the 21st century now!!. Every and each individual is increasingly more aware of their sexuality, and with this they are having more sexual relationships with different people. What if a woman wants to have relationships with several men in the same month...week... or heck! even in the same day! As long as she doesn't hurt anybody (meaning STD's), the only person who should care is herself.


Jerosd 47M

7/2/2005 4:06 am

<-----------likes sluts....hell i am one..certified male slut, who needs studs anyway. So if u need a third....lol


xxblackknightxx 46M

7/2/2005 4:25 am

Nope, to me that shows your are a strong woman, that knows what you want, and who you want it with, and are not afraid to express it 2 your partners. I applaud that, I was with a woman that would never even think of saying how she really felt, kept me guessing, "I hate that shit"...anyway enjoy yourself girl, as long as you can be upfront have safe sex, and your partners are cool with it, who can judge you...or put it to you a better way, who's judgement is worth the toilet paper it takes to wipe it out of your mind...As the aussies say 'No worries MATE'


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/2/2005 5:07 am

This is unture...

I label a man as a sl** if he sleeps around just as I do a woman.

Only a complete and total fool sleeps around in today's society of deadly sexually transmitted diseases.


jsplace1 42M
1 post
7/2/2005 6:33 am

Fair enough, if everyones happy. My definition of a slut is a woman (or Man) who sleeps with lots of people just because they can and derive little or no pleasure from it except perhaps to show off.


rm_DDL007 39M

7/2/2005 8:19 am

I don't know why people give labels, as long as all involved are happy, and knows what is going on, who cares what others think? Todays veiws are so yesterday. Have fun enjoy life to the full, be safe.


nice_guy696969 36M

7/2/2005 1:59 pm

Are 2 of your boyfriends single 1playfulgal?


AMBER535 47M

7/2/2005 2:09 pm

YOU ARE JUST BEING SAFE. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT STUD .


younghotnwild69 37M

7/2/2005 3:09 pm

i think youre a pimp and i like your post on deep throaght you deserve to do want you want do you ever vist wisconson id like to meet you can you finesh the story about sex infront of your parents


nice_guy696969 36M

7/2/2005 3:33 pm

Has any kind of anger/jealously happened between your 2 boyfriends???


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:36 pm

freetime648 couldn't have put it better myself...thanks for your comment...

shahofwichita thanks...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:39 pm

dracco64 mmm...yes...thank you for putting into words what i couldn't seem to manage to...

artistforexploit i definitley would not do that...but if you happened to be at that part i might give you a bit of extra special attention...see where it goes...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:44 pm

Man_Hard that is quite a unique way of seeing things...and a valuable one at that...with that last statement you made me think and realize the simple truth of what you had written...thank you

waiting4u704 true...how very true...maybe if we could all stop labelling each other for 5 minutes we would realize how unique and wonderful each member of the human race is...to unique to be categorized with these horrific labels...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:46 pm

misterrite3 thats what i thought too...as long as i am up front about it and we are all comfortable i don't see that there is anything wrong with it...

LoveEternal very interesting...just what kind of group is that...sounds like fun...can i join?


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:49 pm

hottie9112000 try again when you get your profile approved...

pussyworshippe2 yes they are both wonderful men and that is one of the reasons that our arrangements work so well...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:52 pm

spikeryder don't you worry about that another story is in the making as we speak...

kondenado86 what a wonderful perception of sexuality you have...wish everyone felt similar ways...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:54 pm

jlady52 thanks for your input...I agree that it is indeed ingrained in our soul...i have finally broken free of that...I think...feels great...

Jerosd thanks for the smile...kisses


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:57 pm

xxblackknightxx thanks babe always nice to hear from a like minded individual...kisses

Mysticwriter88 ignorance is a sin...will you go to...?


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 6:58 pm

jsplace1 good to know...that is definitley not me...

DDL007 yes i agree...kisses...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 7:00 pm

nice_guy696969 yes they are both single...they are not boyfriends though...We stop having sex if they feel they are serious about someone else...

AMBER535 ...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 7:01 pm

younghotnwild69 i'll keep that in mind...kisses...

nice_guy696969 they are not my boyfriends and therefore have no reason to be angry or jealous...So the answer is NO


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/2/2005 7:16 pm

ArizonaScorpio great job on that comment...sounds like you put alot of thought into the subject...if we could all think in the same way you do...ah life would be good...

Your hypothesis about the origin of the word slut sounds like it could be accurate...or close to the truth anyway...God i'm glad things aren't like that anymore...

Perhaps if you start your own blog that could be one of your posts...


danteszippo 52M
3882 posts
7/3/2005 1:33 am

Any guy that thinks a woman who sleeps around is a slut, is stupidly proving himself to be a hypocrit of the worst kind. It's a badge of honor to be a stud, so why have it a whole different story for the women who this guys fucks?! I like experienced women. they know how to use it.
naivety can be appealing to some, but a woman who can get off is the best.


rm_Jungle_drive 36M
1 post
7/3/2005 2:09 am

That where the words of a true godess and a godess can't be a slut you are 100% whright girl keep on going !!!!!


tahoe364 54M

7/3/2005 6:21 am

!'m new to this. Just divorced I used to love my wife suck big hard cocks. If your a slut, Im definetely a stud. I love to party , Get kinky and fuck and suck as well as show off my woman to the ro=ight young stud or couple of couse. I, m a 44 year old attorney living in Osprey alone. I have one other couple where thewoman likes to fuck me. Bobb


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/3/2005 8:30 am

danteszippo yes i would agree with you there...when i was younger i seemed to attract alot of virgin men...and i wonder why i didn't like sex all that much...i like my men experienced...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/3/2005 8:31 am

Jungle_drive

that was o sweet thatnks for the vote of confidence...I appreciate it...thanks for readin my blog...i hope you enjoy it...

kisses...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/3/2005 8:33 am

tahoe364

The best of luck to you in your new life...I hope you find all that you are looking for...plus more...

kisses


nice_guy696969 36M

7/3/2005 11:03 am

Oh, come on 1playfulgal virgin guys can be fun with sexually experienced ladies like you if they are horny & capable to fuck, it's just you got to teach more in hot sexual positions......
Were those virgin guys full nerds??


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/3/2005 10:17 pm

nice_guy696969

No they weren't far from it actually...i just prefer my men with experience under their belts...they know better rhythms...better positions...more outgoing...last longer...that sort of thing...


nice_guy696969 36M

7/3/2005 11:36 pm

Hmmmmm........Well count me in 1playfulgal I'm all that and try the best to be. I been with fewer women, not a big womenizer they were all experienced, they only slept with few guys and learned few positions from them and had exciting time.


rm_hakjw6 53F
5 posts
7/4/2005 4:30 pm

1playfufgal
You are covering all stops interms of safe sex, and being upfront w/ your two friends.
In conclusion, honey do you. 86 the labels, you are handling yours.
peace


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/4/2005 10:56 pm

nice_guy696969

experience doesn't nessecarily mean that you have been with lost of women...not in my books anyway...Some men have been with many women and learned nothing from the encounters...its what you learn and take away from those encounters that makes experience...

ciao...kisses...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/4/2005 10:59 pm

hakjw6

thanks...i appreciate the sentiment...and i hope you enjoy your stay in blogland...


npleboy 43M
2 posts
7/5/2005 7:54 am

Men are the one's making up these labels. Some men look at it like this. A hot babe is the one that sleeps with everyone at a party, a slut would be the one that slept with all exept him??


rm_chagi_guy 48M
87 posts
7/6/2005 5:56 am

So long as everyone is playing safe anything is ok. Humans like to have fun that changes things up from time to time, varity is the spice of life.
As for stud or slut, you tend to find now that guys are refered to as players or he-slut... I was actually jokingly called a he-slut back some years ago because I like to play around.
So keep it covered up and have fun... and if you are looking to expand your experiences... give the chagi a try... lol
cheers
CG


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/7/2005 1:03 pm

npleboy

That is a very interesting way of looking at it...I am impressed...something like that would not have occurred to me...thanks for the insight into the male mind...

kisses


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/7/2005 1:09 pm

chagi_guy

(she says as she wipes drool from her chin) just finished lookin at your pics...yummy...damn i wish you lived closer...k a little off topic here...

Variety is the spice of life...that is one of the philosophies that i live my life by...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/7/2005 1:12 pm

AnneRandy101

For me that is entirley a different things...during hot sex with one of my FWB i like to be called a slut as well...I like a lot of things said to me during sex that i would not like outside of the bedroom...or car...or you get the idea...


rm_chagi_guy 48M
87 posts
7/7/2005 3:58 pm

For you 1playfulgal I am willing to travel. I get out there sometimes... and I have got to tell you your pics are making it hard to get away for the computer...
lets chat...
CG


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/9/2005 11:56 pm

chagi_guy

so are yours...drool...very sexy...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
7/10/2005 11:29 pm

ike401

like most i do prefer the feel of bareback...but it is always safety first...committed relationship is the only time an acception is made...


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