Reasons behind being dumped  

1playfulgal 39F
7112 posts
8/16/2005 8:58 am

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Reasons behind being dumped


A friend of mine got dumped by his girlfriend of 3 years last night...She phone him and told him that she needed more space...

But here is the kick in the ass...She goes to unitversity 900km away...they only speak once a week and see each other once ever month or so...

So her yelled at her "How much fucking space do you need!" and hung up on her...

I'm curious what is the worst breakup line used on/by you...

Any stories you weel life sharing...

ByteChaser2 52M

8/16/2005 10:36 am

Man, this one hurts... As honesty, at least initially, always does...

"I can't, I'm married"

One of the surest ways to break up I'd say.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
8/16/2005 10:37 am

hmmmmmmmm only ever had 3 BF's and I married the last one....

first one well I just stopped screwing him and didn't see him again after I dropped out....when I went back I didn't start screwing him again

second one well he had an emotional breakdown after he got hit in the back while driving his taxi the guy was trying to rob him....he didn't say anything he just locked himself away in his room and didn't come out for 2 weeks

and well Boney I married

WyvernRose


rm_pgthkck4u 47M
115 posts
8/16/2005 10:45 am

Worst one I had ever recieved was that " I was not putting all of my effort into keeping the relationship".

We were living in Vancouver and she got a job back home in Prince George. Her idea of effort was for me to quit graduate school(still had one year left to complete) and move back with her. I said no I was going to finish then move back. She came down for a visit 2 months later and gave me the above quoted line, (of course a month before I recieved a phone call from a buddy stating that she was going around hitting on all my friends.

Though it was the worst break line i've ever heard I wasn't exactly torn up about it and i did manage to talk her into staying a week just to screw LOL


rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
8/16/2005 10:58 am

Back when I was about 19 or 20 - and you must know that all 19 year old men (boys) are prick bastards - I decided to end it with a girl I was seeing a couple towns over.

... Told her I got drafted.

And yeah, she bought it.

What a miserable bastard I was back then.


ANewLevel4Us 38M/37F

8/16/2005 11:12 am

I got this reason as to why someone cheated on me...

"You just don't do it for me anymore".


mygmyg 59M

8/16/2005 11:14 am

Playful, i came home from work on my birthday expecing to get ready for an evening out with the lady I had been living with for 3 years. I was in a great mood, looking forward to dinner alone with her, meeting our friends for drinks after dinner, etc. etc.

I walked in to an empty house , calling her name, but found the house to be empty, in the kitchen I found a not on the refrigerator saying that she would be calling at 4:30 to talk. thinking that it was to make sure that nothing was needed around the house, I went about my routine, feeding the 2 Great Danes of hers, one of which was about to have puppies.

Promptly at 4:30 as her note stated, the phone rings, and she asks "did you get my note?" "yeah, don't think we need anything, just you to be here."

Then the bomb,..."I am on the way out of town with my mother, and I won't be living with you when I get back! You can't stop me, so don't try. I can't live with you anymore, Good Bye", Click,... the phone disconnected, and started buzzing in my ear!

Short, sweet and to the point! A 2" X 4" over the head! Never did get any kind of closure/explanation as to why, just that our relationship was not something she wanted to talk about anymore.


f7south 50M

8/16/2005 11:32 am

My parents don't like blacks (now didn't you know this before we started dating).


Ana_6973 43F

8/16/2005 11:56 am

Two different boyfriends, two completely different personalities, both used essentially the same excuse, that I wanted too much commitment for them.

Now, here's the kicker. In relationship number one, boyfriend keeps hinting around about kids, marriage, living together, and when I start to go along, then he dumps me.

In relationship number two, he made the first moves to create a one on one relationship vs a fuck buddy relationship. So I finally am settling into a serious relationship with him and he decides I have gotten too serious for him and he is worried about cheating on me. Should I point out that he was smothering me with his possessiveness? Hmph!

Men suck sometimes. And my opinion on relationships is that they suck at all times. I am so much happier single. People say women are inconsistent.

~~"I can scream as loud as your last one, but I can't claim innocence."~~


eternal1969 47M
1634 posts
8/16/2005 12:09 pm

Well my ex was a light sleeper and gave me the ultimatum that I shouldn't breathe when in bed with her as the sound of it kept her awake. That was the breakup reason too.


firefinder9203 42M

8/16/2005 12:34 pm

how about the "I don’t want to hurt you". When the relationship as that serious in the first place.


spikeryder 49M

8/16/2005 12:37 pm

How about this one, used on me by my last Girlfriend?
" I've been sleeping with another man for the last 6 months..he just Dumped me and won't talk to me..can you phone him and ask him why?"
That's a condensed version, but it really happened to me and she really asked me to do that for her..she then asked if it changed anything between us...


NerdyGirlWebSlut 39M/35F

8/16/2005 12:49 pm

The best/worst one I’ve ever heard was from a gf of mine that told her bf they had to break-up because she didn’t like guys anymore. He was so in love that he offered to get a sex-change.

He ended up in jail a few year later so he may have ended up someone’s girlfriend.


NerdyGirlWebSlut 39M/35F

8/16/2005 12:54 pm

I dated a jock dude in high school when I had low self-esteem and he as an arrogant ass. When I finally figured out he was the loser not me I had to bring him down a few steps.

He was a notorious liar that always tried to change facts to make himself look the best or be the victim so I broke up with him in public in front of all our friends.
I told him, “It’s not me it’s you. I can do better than you, it’s over.”

A couple of days later he was telling anyone that would listen he dumped me despite 20+ people in the cafeteria that witnessed the exact opposite.

I’m kinda glad because I was feeling guilty for being mean. I know now I wasn’t mean enough.

I wish there were more bi-girls in high school.


lookin4some1105 46M
31 posts
8/16/2005 2:51 pm

I once had the "It's not you it's me." I also had the "I don't know what I want, so how can I expect you to be it!" Mind you both of those people ended up being borderline stalker types. I actually had one say that she "needed" space to figure out what she wanted and then she would call me for sex every couple of weeks. After about 3 month of that, I was had to say "You know what, figure what you want because you can your cake and eat it too. That was followed by "I don't want a relationship, if I did I would want it with you but right now I don't want one."

She still contacts me about once a year (only when something bad has just happened)and asks me to sleep with her.

Ahhhh this is why I rather be single now.


rm_wolfridge 40M
1 post
8/16/2005 3:54 pm

Ok here's one I'm from New Zealand and I meet an awesome Italian girl we hit it off and have the greatest time in NZ she flys home 3 months later I fly to her with the full asurance from her that it's ok and she wants me there. Only to arrive and get the it's not you it's me speech. She got back with her old boy friend and didn't bother to tell me now here I am i'm italy and feel like shit.


rm_willie8one2 70M
573 posts
8/16/2005 4:20 pm

I had a girlfriend that was 2 weeks from finalizing her divorce and I had gone on vacation with my kids and when I returned her phone had been turned off. When I heard from her she told me her priest said no mater what her husband had done to her she must return to him as is was a sin to get a divorce and she would be excommunicated from the church.


MiAmore62 49M

8/16/2005 6:16 pm

My break up line is whatver the truth is...last one it was just "I cant take your not talking anymore...im done.... I tried.Bye." His chick obvisouly has another guy. Whatever. No one has any balls anymore.... you dont wanna be with someone...... fuckin be honest and tell them. what the fuck.


rm_crazykid104 46M/38F
1 post
8/16/2005 7:01 pm

The worst one I got was "You are too nice to me"...HUH??...What the hell does that mean?...about 8 years later I found out what that meant...I ran into her...she was at the courthouse trying to get a restaining order on her husband...I thought so that's the kind of guy she wanted.


rm_seamus679 50M

8/16/2005 7:29 pm

I got burned too... whatever they say... long distance does not make the heart grow fonder.... I need some room is what she told me... I was in Calgary and she was going to uni in Nova Scotia where we meet.... I wanted to ask how much room she needed... but figured what was the point.... she had already moved on and I did the same... still, even though at the time I thought I was strong enough to move on to the next gorgeous lady, she broke my heart and it took a long time to get over it


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
8/16/2005 10:56 pm

ByteChaser2

yuck...that one sucks big time...although i have never heard it or used it i would imagine it sucked big time...

wyvernrose

Lucky you...I guess the saying third times a charm ir really accurate in your situation eh?...ciao bella


bush0311 32

8/16/2005 11:34 pm

Lets see, I went to work in Germany for like two months, visited a friend for 3 weeks while there.I had been dating this girl from like 9 months (a year if you count the three in Germany). So I come home 3 mothns later after calling her like once a week, talking everynite over aim. I was told, with no warning, sorry I started to see this guy while you were away and We are over with I'm going to start seeing him now. Then I find out from her livejournal she had had many experiances while I was away... But I found that out by someone else that told me I might not want to look at her online journal. Ouch.


five_speed 41M

8/17/2005 5:23 pm

A girl friend told me one time "You're too damn stable. Nothing phases you." When I asked for a little better explanation, she said "Even when we're having a good time in town I can tell you're not really totally there with me. You always keep one eye on everything else that's going on. Sometimes I feel like I'm too safe when you're around. You negate the risk of EVERYTHING."

Oh well.


Hanter_noz 42M

8/17/2005 5:52 pm

I think men are very sensitive to this one:
"I am not ready for this, but we can still be friends".
It feels even worse when it is followed by:
"I am sure you will find someone special who will make you happy".
When I was a teenager, I hated it. I felt as if the meaning of these phrases be: "I will have sex with any other guy but you" and "You will never be loved because all women will tell you to go find someone special somewhere else".
I really rather using something more gentle and progressive aproach, like: "You are nice. We could spend some time together to see if we can stand each other". Then, when the other person no longer imagines I am something I am not, things end gently and nicely. I think it feels as if you had given the other person a chance to discover she does not like you, instead of rejecting him or her, because she is not liked. Notice that, sometimes, I have been direct. But I had been pressed beyond my limits. There are things we cannot take.
Another break up line I hated: "I don't want to be another disapointment in your life". I had the impression it meant: "You are looser who never gets anything at all and I don't want to make you suffer too, because I pitty you. By the way, the other guy is better than you".
Anyhow, I found a way around my first impressions and discovered the girl really liked me. Today, she is one of the most supportive and reliable friends I have. And she did not like the other guy, as I thought. She just wanted to take a break from men for a while (maybe the rest of her life, but I wont wait for her).
Sometimes, I think, our words do not convey the right meaning. Other times, the other person does not get the right meaning. And, most of the times, both things happen at once. So, I don't think we should pay attention to what we may imagine words imply. Shouldn't we try to understand the person who says those words first?


kittylicker382 48M

8/17/2005 9:37 pm

I had this girl...from a local town...talk to me here....tell me all about herself....then we met..had a great time....we fucked....she said it was great....then I never heard from her again...until she accidentally sent me an "invite" thru her online connection thing for her address book.she,after I contacted her....told me she was back with her husband.....the guy she told me was a loser alcoholic....hope he treats you like the piece of shit you are...you fucking player whore.


AtomicKisss 58M

8/18/2005 12:04 am

Nothing I did or said would shake the woman. Finally, out of desperation, I told her that I had VD. That did it!


rm_Disciple316 41M/42F

8/18/2005 1:01 am

The worst line to get dumped by: "I don't desrve you, I don't deserve all the love and compassion that you are able to give" apparently her past haunts her bad enough to where she can't forgive and love herself, let alone others or even allow others to love her. So she compensates by going around and toying with men's hearts by trying out the relationship, but destroying them when feelings of her past come bubbling up again. She needs serious help.


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
8/18/2005 8:50 am

pgthkck4u

if that is the effort she excpected you to put into the relationship...it wasn't worth it...you made a good choice...

VoodooGuru1

I think that a lot of men are pricks when they are teens...the important thing is that you grow out of it...some never do and remain pricks until they die...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
8/18/2005 8:56 am

ANewLevel4Us

that totally sucks...

mygmyg

happy birthday to you eh? Man that was cowardly of her, not having closure about something is the worst...i can deal with everything else but lack of closure eats away...

f7south

Yup that sucks...i got something similar...i was told that when his mother found out that i was not jewish she forbid him to see me anymore...he was 25 and she still had him wrapped around her little finger...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
8/18/2005 8:58 am

Ana_6973

I feel for you been there done that...

eternal1969

that seems like an unreasonable ultimatum...suffocate or i will dump you...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
8/18/2005 9:08 am

firefinder9203

atleast that one is true for the most part...i have used it in a breakup speech before...

spikeryder

holy crap no way...what was srong with that woman...please tell me you dumped her and didn't do as she asked...


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
8/18/2005 9:13 am

NerdyGirlWebSlut

wow...i would never even contemplate getting a sex change for someone...that guy must've been in love and dumb as a post...

lookin4some1105

oviously she was trying to have it all...great sex with you(she wouldn't have come back for more if it wasn't)without all the emotional entanglements of a relationship...

I'm not saying that is bad in fact i have a couple FWB right now but it has to be something that both of you want...


WeaveBurlsValve 54M
127 posts
8/18/2005 10:18 am

The worst I ever used (I didn't really intend it to be but it turned out that way) I had been dating this woman for a while when we had a "Talk" about life, she told me how everything was going just the way she wanted, she had the degree she had always wanted, was hired by her dream firm and given the perfect job, had found the perfect house... then she said that it was time for her to get married! my response "Thats Fantastic!!! Who are you going to Marry?"

Worst I ever received was from the six foot tall blonde bitch... (I'm not Bitter!) She never actually broke up with me, she received a job over thousands of miles away and somehow I managed to pay for all her moving expenses only to find out later that I was moving her into her new bosses house! Of course I didn't discover that until I saved up the money to visit her and I even had some job interviews lined up in the area but when I showed up at her office to suprise her... well I was the one who was suprised!


alice593 71M

8/18/2005 11:14 am

My first wife just said she didn't love me no more. But after marrying the guy she was messing with, she regreted it. She divorced him and wanted me back. I told her I found someone better, and I did. I was married to the gal I was seeing for 26 years before she died two years ago.


spikeryder 49M

8/18/2005 1:44 pm

I did ..i said I loved her but couldn't see her again..she said "does that mean we're not going for that drink?"


brian55007
2 posts
8/18/2005 6:38 pm

I had a girl friend in Reno that used to bitch that her ex husband and boy friends used to beat her up all the time. She was always a brat but I like that. Then one day when we were arguing about what movie to rent she said You can hit me if you want, I said Ill never hit you and she said that she thought if thats true this relationship isnt going anywhere and we should see other people. I just stood there with my jaw on the floor and watched her walk away.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
8/27/2005 5:04 pm

My worst breakup was when I got a divorce.

DustStormDiva


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