Making Sex Fun!  

1girlrevolution 46F
314 posts
6/28/2006 9:16 am

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7/5/2006 9:29 am

Making Sex Fun!

Have you ever been having sex with someone and find yourself gazing around the room? It’s as if you’re looking for something more interesting that will catch your attention because the person on top of you just isn’t doing it for you. Admit it, we’ve all done it . . . lay there and take it wondering how long it will last, wondering what’s going through their mind and if they are as bored as you. But the look on their face seems that of euphoria . . . how can that be when your mind is wandering off on how you need a good manicure or what you might make for dinner? Obviously, you’re in two different places.

I will never forget the time my ex-husband stopped, looked at me and said, “you know, if you stopped watching TV and paid a little more attention to me, this would be over sooner.” How sad was that? I just asked him to move his right shoulder. God, I will never be married again. I admire those few couples that manage to keep their relationship alive but I, unfortunately, was not one of them. Marriage got stale and boring to me. I thoroughly enjoy being single. Sex is very, very good now, amongst many other things.

So now when my mind starts wandering, I slowly and very casually break out the toys. Now sometimes, the person you’re with will give you a strange but interesting look. My guess is that they haven’t experimented much with things that shine and vibrate so they’re a bit apprehensive. Others that have some experience will get excited thinking, yeah, this chick’s into some fun stuff. Either way I have yet to have anyone protest the use of fun toys in the bedroom. Some just like to watch, some like to participate and I even had one guy start requesting them on a regular basis. Baby, go get that cherry stuff. Sure.

My advice (because I’m always full of it and it’s free and you don’t have to take it), participate! Be open, communicate with who you’re with, take it slow, lay back and enjoy. Fun, fun, fun. But yes, join in. It’s always ok to watch but it’s also like going to an amusement park and watching the fun happen around you. Join in and let your partner take you for a ride.

Kristofer32 46M

6/28/2006 10:45 am

See there, something I have said all along. You have to change things up or you get in a rut and things have no where to go but down. Now, I have no experience with toys, but it is with out a doubt an interesting concept. The main thing is change. Boring same thing, time after time has no place if there is any desire whatsoever to maintain "spark." Thanks for sharing the obvious and making seem like I am not the only person who needs a change up once in a while.


eroticcartoonist 37M
50 posts
6/28/2006 12:32 pm

Almost everytime I've ever had sex or made out or done anything has been like that for me, but I've always attributed that to some form of A.D.D. or something. Everthing might be all fun going good, but then I would just start thinking about other things. She might be screaming her head off or contorting her face in seeming euphoria and I would just be thinking to myself "I wander if I could make a different chic react like that". It's very rare that I was 100% into it, and I find that it was most often during make-up sex that I would be totally into it. Of course, it's a lot easier for me to stay interested when there's a mirror around so that I can see what's happening at a different angle.

I think the getting bored easy thing might have something to do with why I like to change positions so often.

So yes, I know what you mean.


Ps: I love Ben and Jerry's too, but sometimes I like to go for the Haagan-Das or the Godiva, hmmmmmmmmmm.

MillsShipsGayly 51M

6/28/2006 1:04 pm

He didn't REALLY say that ....

I always felt doggystyle with a TV set on that can be seen by both is a sure-fire way to dull the excitement of intimate moments... "Oh my god, can you believe Lenno said that?" lol

MillsShipsGayly 51M

6/28/2006 1:08 pm

"You Make Loving Fun" Fleetwood Mac ....

As I left your blog that song came to me .. before your time but appropriate and sweet

rm_magnet4u22 49F
18406 posts
6/28/2006 6:42 pm

Variety is the way to go. Whatever works. My partner always has my attention.....


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
6/28/2006 9:07 pm

1girl, you and me gotta go toy shopping, since it appears you may just be an expert! LOL

It helps if you close your eyes, barring that, paper bags work well, except if they stop your partner from breathing quietly...just kidding!

Note to self: DON'T USE THE PLASTIC BAGS (but the firemen that revived him WERE awful cute, and what a story I had to make up for them!)

Actually, I do know what you're talking about, especially if it goes on and on and on for hours of grinding, and it feels like he's never gonna get off. You need a 'Zen' picture on your wall, kinda like they use for labour rooms...stare at the picture and go elsewhere in your brain, to a nice warm soft field, sun beating down, and Mel Gibson on top of you...OMG did I just say that? Darn backspace key is broken...



loadeddice05 44M

6/29/2006 7:32 am

LOL!! Yep! I do so enjoy the "tube" while fucking!!! ...classic.....
Anyways! Really break out the toys and throw that lame fuck into the living room! Or do what I do get back at em' for being lame???? LOL!!!!!

1girlrevolution 46F

6/29/2006 8:26 am

OK all my ADD friends . . . let's go toy shopping. Elle, I'll pick you up first, Canada's right on the way to Fantasy House. Then, we'll go grab "e" cuz he'll do shots with us - he's in Texas. Then, we'll party with loadeddice and mag at Kris's place but we have to get Michael first.

Thanks for being real . . .


thorntonmale 48M
36 posts
6/30/2006 1:47 am

well they say you can never have enough toys

rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
7/5/2006 5:45 am

I totally agree and one step up from fun is people with creative minds make the very best lovers. I look in my lovers eyes when having sex, and to see her not being into me would make it nearly impossible to stay hard with her. I need to know as well as see with my eyes what im doing is pleasing her first and foremost.

UrFuckBud 60M
323 posts
7/5/2006 7:04 am

I used to wonder about that. Especially during my first two marriages.

Was something wrong with me? Why did I lose interest? Why did the sex seem to get stale? Why wasn't I up and at'em, like in the beginning?

Then, during single life, I noticed the same thing happening when I was with someone for anywhere from two months to six months. Again, was something wrong with me?

Maybe I was partly to blame. I don't know, don't care.

I have a wife I love, whose pussy drives me wild even in the missionary position, night after night for over 5 years. We've adopted a swinging lifestyle that seems to make it even better for us after a wild party when we get home and want just each other. We don't get jealous and enjoy seeing each other have fun with others.

We get wild and crazy in weirdest places. And have fun with it.

And we try and keep the TV off and put a cd on.

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