Getting All You Want  

1girlrevolution 46F
314 posts
5/8/2006 4:52 pm

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5/13/2006 9:51 am

Getting All You Want

I wanted to share this letter with all of you because I’m sure you’ve been here before . . . it’s a little harsh, but he had it coming. Let me also say that this does NOT apply to the wonderful man who took me out last Saturday . . . you know who you are, my devilish friend. Sit back, relate, and enjoy.

Guess I just want to start by saying that I am truly disappointed . . . not in just you, but in myself too. Because, you see, I should have known better. For some reason I believed you were different. I should have realized from your past performances that you are and will always be a repeat offender.

I thought we were much more than friends and really had something special. Now, the only thing you have either accomplished or proven to me is that you think only of yourself and the only thing that truly matters is what you want and the guarantee that you’ll get it at any cost regardless of who you hurt in the process.

Relationships are a reciprocal deal and you were never willing to make the trade. I guess that’s what hurts the most. I was there for you and you were there for me when you chose to be . . . when you needed something . . . support, encouragement, affection, whatever. But much to your chagrin, you are about to find out that that’s not the way things work. A friendship and/or a relationship is not a part-time commitment; it is not a temporary obligation; nor is it a convenient affinity for another person. It is based on trust and honesty and I find it impossible to be friends with or have a relationship with someone for whom I hold none of those qualities dear, or with someone who both so blatantly disregards and disrespects another’s feelings at the drop of a hat.

You used me; you played on my feelings and emotions; you took advantage of my weaknesses because you know where they lie; however, you will not under any circumstances take away my self-respect or dignity So, although I feel you fucked me over, I can live with it. I like myself too much to let someone like you ruin in a weekend what I have worked too hard at for years to establish.

It’s people like you who ruin things for everyone else. No one knows who to trust anymore and you surely don’t improve the situation any. Not all people (especially men in general) are thoughtless, insensitive, selfish, self-serving users, but you most definitely are and you totally kill the chance that a decent, caring, sensitive, loving and giving person can be accepted and appreciated for who he is with no suspicion, pre-judgment, or remorse.

You are the kind of person I was always warned about. You represent yourself as the supposedly sweet, understanding, gentle guy who is in reality nothing more than an asshole in a gentlemen’s disguise. I never really believed that your lecherous species existed until now. If for nothing else, thank you for making me a little wiser by proving to me that scum doesn’t grow only on the surface of a Petri dish or a pond. You opened my eyes and made me realize that a well-practiced, dedicated jerk can present himself in many forms on many different levels. Guess I owe you something for that. Maybe a well-intended piece of advice will serve you better than what I’d really like to give you. Grow up and realize that the world does not nor ever will revolve around you. You may just end up paying for your selfishness in ways you’ve never imagined.

Life is not supposed to be a series of mistakes that you keep on repeating. Maybe one of these days you’ll be able to realize that and learn how to be a better person with a little more compassion and understanding. In the meantime, maybe you should take awhile to think about the fact that other people are involved and exist in your one-dimensional world.

Happiness does not exist in having or getting all you want at any cost. What comes around goes around and the deeds you do in any name on any given day will end up costing you a price. So, the way it looks from where I stand is that although you may be happy and content for the time being, in your mind at least, you will be miserable for a long time because you have to live with yourself. You deserve all you get and I almost feel sorry for you because you are so blind as to what really matters in this life. Maybe someday you will wake up and realize what really counts and for your sake, I hope you do or you are going to end up not only bitter and lonely, but also very alone.


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
5/8/2006 5:20 pm

Ouch, kiddo, want me to mess him up? LOL

I'll sic my Dragon on him, burn his m-bare-assed behind as he runs from your domicile...

Nicely said, doll...



1girlrevolution 46F

5/8/2006 5:44 pm

Hey Elle,

Yes, sic your Dragon on his ass! But I think he's cryin by now. Man, don't piss me off. I never claimed to be nice. lol


Kristofer32 46M

5/8/2006 5:45 pm


I feel for you and offer heart felt sympathies. My opinion, I know unsolicited, is that you put way too much effort into a letter for a scumbag who knows no better, and likely is still in a state of confusion. Great letter wasted on a feeble mind.

Good luck with guys like you refered to from Sat night, there are more of them than the idiots you wrote your letter to.


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
5/8/2006 6:06 pm

I can kick his ass for ya!

Purry {=}


Djeeper1987 47M

5/8/2006 6:32 pm

Thank god it wasn't me

Carpe Diem

1girlrevolution 46F

5/8/2006 7:28 pm

Purry - thanks! I love it when hot chicks unite!

Djeeper - never you!


1girlrevolution 46F

5/8/2006 7:42 pm

Kristofer - I know, long letter for someone not worth it, but it felt so good. I think I did it more for me than him. Thanks for the comment!


sat_man 59M

5/8/2006 8:10 pm

1 girl - I'm truly sorry - evil people do exist (people who worship only ONE - themselves). It's not right and it's contrary to everything decent and good. The only good thing about scumbags is that they're mortal and they invite other people to prove their mortality - at far below the average age. *Hugs*

digdug41 49M

5/8/2006 9:37 pm

Glad it felt good to get it out and if this dude read it then the seeds been planted that he needs to look at his actions alot more closely if not then hey its on him you told him so he was warned

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

1cooldude63 53M

5/9/2006 5:24 am

Wow, he really must have upset you bad.Hope you are feelin better.

extacy679 37F
22 posts
5/10/2006 5:51 am

let me kick his ass

sparkymuttdog 44M

5/11/2006 8:22 pm

Duuuh...did he not recognize the handle name...does he not know that the world revolves around you? Hmmm...maybe your the tornado in his life...OUCH! You go girl!

runzwithknives 59F

5/12/2006 4:59 pm

Ouch, feeling ya 1 girl. And glad to hear that this was more for you than him because this is way more than he deserves. Just hope to heck it isn't anyone one I knew (or know). LMAO, now that would be ironic, wouldn't it?


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