1girlrevolution 46F
314 posts
7/12/2006 8:47 am

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8/13/2006 6:49 am


There are very few things in this life that I “believe in.” I admit I am ye of little faith but understand the need for organized religion and having faith to find strength to carry on. Sometimes, I wish I had more. I don’t believe in fate or that things happen for a reason. I think our actions can cause reactions but I don’t think there’s this mysterious big plan for us! I don’t believe that certain people were “meant to be together” but I do think that you are attracted to certain types and you put forth more effort in those types of relationships which also have a better chance of survival. I don’t believe in love at first sight but rather lust at first sight. Love grows. It doesn’t just appear. I don’t believe in forever.

So what do I believe in?

I believe in deep love that happens with two people that have a certain connection, and that’s hard to find. I believe in happiness within yourself first. I believe that the laughter of children makes you live longer! I believe you can love someone one day and that one day can dissolve into just a memory and I believe in divorce. I believe you can have many loves throughout your life. I believe you have in your life exactly what you want whether you’re single or totally in love. You’re where you choose to be.

I think I’m at a crossroads right now, for the moment. I have some decisions of where I want to be and who I want to be with, and if I want to share me right now. I’ve been so selfish for a long time (which was my decision and where I believed I needed to be) but things are changing. Sometimes I tire of me . . . and it would be nice to settle into something with someone else, but that scares me and at times I can’t breathe. Decisions and believing. I believe I’ll take a deep breath and let this play out a bit longer and in time, I believe things will turn out just fine.

loadeddice05 44M

7/12/2006 7:10 pm

I truly think love can be a fleeting thing!! I can't believe the one we're with, is always who were gonna love?? Our minds just don't work like that!!! But I hope what ever you decide and what changes you make???? I hope they work for you????


rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
7/13/2006 6:01 am

I believe in love at first sight as well, and that we can love more than once in a lifetime, even at the same time! I believe that when you put love out there, you get it back tenfold, least, I'm hoping! LOL

I too am at that crossroads, with real emotions behind my lustful feelings for someone, and he's giving me the nod that he feels in a similar way. Do I want to give all this up? Well, it's a moot point if I get shipped out, but I'm mulling...

Good luck with your decisions, 1girl, it's a tough one! I'm so scared of choosing someone who is in any way similar to my Ex - we do tend to repeat things unless we've learned from them, and I'm unsure if I've had enough lessons yet!

But, life owes me a good one, well not 'owes'....but damn, my heart needs it!



eroticcartoonist 37M
50 posts
7/13/2006 9:41 pm

"Sometimes I tire of me . . . and it would be nice to settle into something with someone else, but that scares me and at times I can’t breathe"

- I second that motion.


rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
7/14/2006 3:05 am

I'm just the opposite as i believe everything in life happens for a reason be it fate, destiny or what not. Certain events happen for a reason and its up to us to decide what to do at that point. I know for a fact that there is not just one lover for us in life, there are many. One thing i'm certain of is true love with a soul mate requires no work because its what i call a purely natural loving relationship. I find it to be a lie when people say you have to work or nurture the relationship..

I only agree with that when a person is with who they shouldn't really be together with anyways which i believe 9 out of 10 married couples are. True love hits like a runaway train, its totally selfless and you either have to accept it or turn from it. I disagree with Ellenback on love at first sight for the soul fact that what you see with your eyes has nothing to do with love at all. Love has no face.

UrFuckBud 60M
323 posts
7/14/2006 10:23 am

We're here.
Be yourself.
Don't hurt others.
Communicate honestly, from a positive viewpoint.
Offer love, honesty and trust, even when it means to more than one.
Plan a bit for your own future.
Live in the moment otherwise.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Read the Enchiridion, understand the limits of your control, and what part of you is truly free.

runzwithknives 59F

7/15/2006 1:26 pm

No, not selfish. Taking care of you as it should be. When the time is right it will change and you will let it happen.

Love at first sight? Infatuation and lust at first sight is what does us in most times. When this wears off we find there really was no basis for friendship. I do believe in a connection that signals a potential and is stronger than normal. Love is A deep seated, total acceptance, caring, trusting and respectful friendship which takes time to develop.
Yes, I believe...

Hugs, Rosa

howaboutahuck 65M
489 posts
7/18/2006 2:49 pm

Your Right, love at first sight is lust. First your an acquaintance, then your friends, You earn each others trust and become an item and then maybe with patience, understanding, compromise and a fierce will you may find love that will last. A good set of blinders wouldn't heart any. But I keep looking. Don't we all.

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