1bbdomme 48F
11 posts
2/3/2006 1:28 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


The thing I dislike the most about some of the people that contact me is that they chicken out. You can explain until you're blue in the face about consent, but ultimately, you get a lot that are curious, fascinated, even enthralled by the notion of giving their power to another sexually. Dig a little deeper and you find it just scares the shit out of them. Obviously, it's not good to proceed with one that is afraid.
This is not always my experience, but often enough to get me to thinking about what people think they want vs what they really want.
I think many of the men that contact me saying they want a Domme really just want a demanding partner that is comfortable saying what she wants. Of course, Dommes are like that usually, but there is so very much more. It's a matter of people not really having an understanding of what this particular lifestyle entails for so many of us.

themeek70 46M
12 posts
2/3/2006 3:08 am

"scares the shit out of them"

Being nervous is the same exact physical emotion as being excited, though most people view things negatively so in turn, instead of thinking they are excited, they think they scared and will automatically withdraw from the situation to protect themselves.

What's this "particular lifestyle" ?

You are right when you say people may not really want what they think they want. I wouldn't have a friggen clue what i want, but i just keep going, like everyone else

1bbdomme 48F

2/4/2006 1:18 pm

Of course, you are correct, thank you for pointing that out. Excited and nervous produce the same physical responses. The difference, in this case, would be the unknown. It is the unknown that keeps people on the edge between excitement and fear. So they circle and circle, but invariable, the need or curiosity or whatever takes over and they leap.

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