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If I wrote a book.  

chislut

4/22/2009 6:57 pm

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 I was asked recently, "Why haven't you written a book yet?" This was from a person who has NO clue about this side of me. She probably doesn't even know that sites like this exist. She's a parent of a friend.

I've found that a lot of people who know me are surprised that I'm not a writer. I think it's because I read so much. I'm never without a book. (Those of you who have met me IRL know this! Yes, I bring a book even when meeting someone from Adult FriendFinder.)

I've thought about writing books, both fiction and non-fiction, often, but I think the problem is that I'm *really* not a disciplined person.

Anyway, the reason I brought this up is because I was just reading some of the emails I got here and wishing I could just directly tell some of the guys what they did wrong. I know that wouldn't be taken well, so I don't. It really comes from my librarian side. I want to HELP people get what they want! I mean, I stop and give directions to people I overhear on the street talking about how they're lost. I've interrupted in bookstores when a clerk is helping a patron find a book, but neither of them can find it and I happen to remember seeing it on a display. I can't help myself.

Once I heard a woman telling another woman at an airport McDonald's that she was upset because the $20 bill she got from the ATM was ripped and that a quarter of the bill was gone. I went over and let her know that if she took it to a bank they'd replace it for her if less than some percentage was missing. (I knew what that number was at the time.)

But, no one wants to hear from a girl who's basically rejecting them *why* they're being rejected. Not really.

They might, though, be interested in a book that was all advice about how to get laid (or whatever they're looking for) on Adult FriendFinder.

Of course, then I realized that there's a lot of women on here there are nothing like me at all and so the advice I'd give wouldn't be applicable in all cases.

Oh well. I'm not disciplined enough to actually do more than think about what I'd write in it anyway.
sman2k.01
2410 posts

4/22/2009 11:05 pm

 well damn, now i wish i was in chicago and hitting you for sex just so i could get your take on what i could be doing better. you'd probably make a decnt muse. maybe....lol

whoisagentj
3306 posts

4/23/2009 7:18 am

 As for your writing, I know EXACTLY how you feel. When I took my writing classes, the teacher told me that writing is a dicipline, and good writers need to write at least 2-4 hours each day, even if you write nothing but crap, you're bound to write some gems some days. The most important thing is that you establish a pattern of writing and condition yourself to do it every day. I used to write poetry and prose when I was younger, and I finally got a piece of my poetry published when I was 29 in a large compilation book or poets who submit their poetry every year. So now I can say in my epitaph I was a published poet and at least my work is in the Library of Congress.
Maybe one day though I will write a book about my life.

As for telling guys what they did wrong, well I know first hand from experience when you told me what I did wrong. And yeah, boy did I chafe and hated what you told me. But, it was the truth, and people have a hard time dealing with the truth when put in front of them like that. I think I've grown a lot more since then. And I do think that even though you rejected me in the past, and I didn't want to hear it then, I'm glad you told me. It allowed me to move on and fix myself. It's kind of weird you posted this though...I felt as if you wrote this just for my sake. Of course, I know you didn't because that's just my ego kicking in thinking that, but it felt like you wrote that just for me. Weird.

And as for yourself, I think you can write a book, or even a series on Adult FriendFinder if you want on how to help men and women approach other sexes and help them get laid if you want to do that. I think you can do anything if you put your mind to it, and I think you would do a fantastic job. You just got to believe in yourself is all. I think you can do it.

And anytime you want to talk, stop by my blog and leave me a message and we could talk more if you like.
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4/23/2009 5:53 pm

 I've told men how they messed up on their approach with me. Some appreciate it and some are douche bags about it.

I've been asked about writing a book too, but I don't think I have the disciple nor am I very good about organizing my thoughts.
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The_SnowMachine
9 posts 

4/24/2009 3:12 pm

 We live in a society that has trained itself to be fearful of honest, critical feedback. To say someone did something wrong or poorly has become a judgment on a person's character, and not on their behavior. However, it is only with accurate feedback that we can improve our performance. We talk about being imperfect human beings, but then why can't we talk about the imperfections?

I am a professional know-it-all like yourself. People call, write, and stop down, and I tell them stuff that I read in a book or an article one time in the past. It's what I do. Unfortunately, know-it-alls are as under appreciated as people who dish out critical feedback.

moos106.7
19 posts 

4/29/2009 10:52 am

 After sitting in on pitch sessions and critiques of writing and art samples, I've seen first hand how people react when told their work isn't quite up to snuff. When their friends and family (who might not know what to look for and are thrilled that they have a "talented" relative/friend) have said how good the material you've just dumped on is, the walls come up and, despite it being your job to do so, you wouldn't know quality if it bit you on the ass.

I can only imagine how some guys react when confronted with being told they have a poor personality ("But my mom says I'm a catch.") or, if it got to that point, they are a lousy lay. It take a big man to be able to stand up to a real ego bruising truth and make the effort to correct the problem.

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