How do you say no?  

100words 38F
60 posts
5/25/2005 7:12 pm

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How do you say no?

What do you do when you are not interested in a person, but you already started talking to him/her?

I hate commenting on pictures or looks, but sometimes I can tell I am not interested.

What is the way you like to be told no....quick and honest or with reasons?

What exactly do you say?

firecrotch32 45F  
30 posts
5/25/2005 7:42 pm

I go for the quick and honest "Sorry, you are not my type"...but I do hate it when they push it and ask why not...sigh.

lustmirror 63M
2897 posts
5/25/2005 7:47 pm

quick and honest....the reasons aren't going to change anything, and it invovles more connection, but with an unpleasant can it go well?

DirtyLilSecret66 55F

5/25/2005 7:50 pm

I prefer quick and honest, no reasons needed for me. Don't be brutal or cruel but at least let me know that the magic just isn't happening. There is NOTHING worse than thinking you're connecting with someone only to find out they are chatting up others in a sneaky way. I'm not sure of exact wording as it differs with each person but please please PLEASE ... be honest.


tweekster403 37F

5/25/2005 7:53 pm

That's easy. Stop talking to them is one way, just don't respond anymore, tell them you met somebody, or my favorite the truth "hey you are a great person but there is nothing there for me" Honey you are a babe, guys (and girls will understand).


rm_jackburton28 43M

5/26/2005 2:25 am

I say just go the brutaly honest route total bitch style give him the ole' "you know what? you are a real f'n idiot! we can not talk any more!!" that's the way I prefer it none of that "you're a real nice guy but.." or what ever and hey at least that way they can walk away being pissed at you instead being all depresed about being rejected

Priapeo 46M

5/26/2005 3:36 am

I've learned not to ask why in front of a "no", because this can cause a useless embarassment but also because the woman usually adds her reasons, though not being asked. When I have to say "no" I'm sorry to say that I lie... well, not exactly a lie, but rather a paradoxical amplification of the truth. lol... "You are very nice and I enjoy your company, but here I'm looking for the perfect sexual mate: same ideas, same goals, same character" and some other hundreds of words, because I'm not capable of being quick.

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

nightstogether 56M

5/26/2005 5:16 am

Quick and honest, and if they cannot understand No ignore or block them. It'll get through eventually.

private-intellectual (.de)

patsam69 51M/51F

6/6/2005 7:13 pm

I have had to do this a few times. Once I told a man that I am sorry but I am just not attracted to you in a sexual way. He was cool about it, but kept going on that he could change my mind. I had to tell anothe man the same thing, and he also said he wanted me to give him a chance. If they don't understand block them. It sucks, but you have to do it.

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